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writes:I met this girl at a meeting for a reality tv show for models. One of the models came over to me and sat next to me and we really hit it off. she kept grabbing my hand and laughing at all my jokes. After she posed for some pictures I asked her if she wanted to grab a coffee and she accepted. We walked to my car which was like ten blocks away and my friend that was with me wanted to go to a party but the girl didnt so i was forced to drop her off and go to the party because i was my friend's ride. I got her number and I really want to see her again. how soon should i call her? i dont want her to think that i just want to "hit it and quit it" but i dont want to seem desperate. suggestions? --chris Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 If you call her the next day or two, she will think you're desperate. Like a loser who is holding on, clinging on to this one woman who paid attention to him. That is part of the relationship as well: she has to know you could opt for leaving her if need be.
I got the advice of waiting for a week from a person who asked me this question: if Julia Roberts wanted to have a relationship with you, and she called only after a week, what would you do? Yes, you would wait for her. Because you would be interested in her, and her not calling you for a week wouldn't matter.
I respect other people's opinions. That has worked for them, so I suppose some women do want you to call the next day or so. I just insist because I feel you don't want to blow your chances.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (11 August 2008):
 I agree with no longer than a day or two. If you wait too long, she will think that you are not interested enough.
And any guy that succeeded in winning my heart, was persistent with me. So step up to the plate hon, YOU'RE ON !
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reader, Solidus +, writes (11 August 2008):
 if you want her to know you're into her call her the the afternoon of the next day, not a week.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): I think you should just wait a coupple of days...If she is interested, then she will accept, and if not, she won't. I hope everything works out LoverBoy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): You should call her after a couple of days, if you wait any longer than that she will feel that you would be unreliable in the future. Women like to feel that they are special so compliment her with the type of things they like to hear (non-sexual) Your dress is fabulous, red is great with your complection, where did you learn so much about ...flowers,dogs,jewelry,the environment.....whatever she has an interest in. It would behove you to take mental notes on what her interests are and learn a little more about them. Look good and smell good when you pick her up. Open doors for her, pull her chair, help her with her coat. Believe it or not, women are still suckers for being taken care of in this way. Buy ONE rose (pink)and give it to her when you pick her up. Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (11 August 2008):
If you really want a relationship with this girl, wait one week. It might seem too long, but it's not. If she's seriously interested, she won't care to wait that long. If she can't wait that long, well, you won't waste your time.
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