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writes:I have been in a relationship with the most lovely guy for five months. The problem is I don't love him and he doesn't love me. I am not sure if I should by now? He is lovely, we get on really well and have fun together but I don't want to find myself in a relationship where we end up as friends and find it hard to let go. I feel like I want to give us a chance and see if things develop but not sure how long to give it which raises another issue. I am 28 and he is 22. Although this isn't much of an issue as he is mature I can't afford to waste too much time on something that isn't going anywhere. I also have issues with his party lifestyle as I have been there done it but we are compromising on this. I don't want to lose him but not sure if i should let him go?? Reply to this Question
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reader, grace28 +, writes (28 October 2007):
grace28 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much for your advice. I have been doing some thinking and although we have been seeing each other for 5 months, we have only really been together properly for 3 months.
He really wants us to give it a go, he said he doesn't love me yet but he knows he will. He is one in a million so I think i will give it a couple of months and hopefully things will work out.
We are both under alot of pressure with other aspects of our lives so it has an impact on our relationship and it leaves me really confused about my feelings.
Hopefully our feelings will grow as will love.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (27 October 2007):
 Hi,
When I was 28 I moved together with a guy I wasn't in love with, we had then been a couple for 2 yrs. We were really good friends and I loved him as such. Needless to tell how hard decision it was to 5 yrs later brake up. I felt like I had wasted both his and my precious time. So, if you feel this uncertain you really should step back for a litte while and think over what it really is you are feeling for this guy. What does he say about these matters?
Good luck!
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (27 October 2007):
 I think you have got to decide whether or not you see him as a potental boyfriend, or a best friend. You have been together for five months, and normally coming up the the half year mark you should really know your feelings. Give it another couple of months and if you feel that still nothing is materialising between the pair of you then maybe you may want to consider moving on.
Goodl Luck x
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