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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I dated this very good looking man for over a month, and then he started disappearing and playing games. He ignored me for over a month and then returned. Now we're talking again but he's not being very attentive. I don't really have a choice at this point other than to win at the game he insisted on playing. So I ignored his last text which was 4 days ago. There's a school of thought devoted to the notion of ignoring a guy (particularly one who has ignored you first) to get his attention. How long does it take to work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut again...since he's not getting sex, there's another reason he keeps talking to me... And also, I wont lose my dignity because I can control myself. Don't take your regrets out on me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): As someone who has been in a similarly pathetic situation, I can tell you that you DO have a choice. Don't ever text him back. Delete his number and, if at all possible, change your number or block his. He doesn't care. I'm not trying to make you feel bad about yourself, but I have been in your position and I thought I could "win" but I only ever lost (my self-respect, dignity, a lot of time etc). He's not worth it. If he liked you he would be calling and texting you and trying to see you. Guys who like girls don't play games with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm keeping my options open but in the mean time don't see anything wrong with keeping this option open as well. I'm young and dating is SUPPOSED to be fun and games. It's not that serious. he's not my husband. I realize he's not in love with me nor am I with him. But he must be into me a little or he wouldn't keep coming back. We don't even have sex nor oral sex.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 February 2013):
 These childish schoolyard games can go on forever, if either or both of the participants choosed to keep it going.....
Myself? I think it's OK to forget about people who think this is an OK way to carry on a "relationship".....
Good luck.....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 February 2013):
 it's not a game honey... he's not that into you.
delete his number and go NEXT...
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reader, human_male  +, writes (15 February 2013):
 Good grief. Just forget about it, stop playing games and move onto someone who doesn't play games.
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