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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:How important is your parent's and friends opinions about your boyfriend to you? I've been going out with a boy for a year and a half now. My parents and my bf didn't get off on the right foot to begin with and in the past he has spoken boldly to them and seemed disrespectful to them. I'll admit my bf is the type of person to not BS anything and tell it like it is, but my parents seem to think he has an attitude problem, which i don't see. They don't think he's up to my level intellectually and he's too immature and not meant for me. I love my bf and we're such a different couple when we're alone together. He has always done wonderful things for me and is extremely romantic. He has always been respectful to me and accepted the fact that i was a virgin and never pressured me into anything. I know that he loves me dearly and i love him too, except that my parents and friends think that bc he is my first relationship ever that i should date around more and not tie myself down since i'm only 22. I know i'm not ready for marriage or anything, but do i follow their advice and see what else is out there while i still have strong feelings for my current bf? I dont know why i would give up someone who makes me happy for the prospect of someone else. Any advice or similar situations?? Thanks
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (10 April 2007):
 I wouldn't pay too much attention to your parents' advice, since your boyfriend and them got off on the wrong foot. The part where they said they thought he was immature might be worth a closer examination. Did they say it because they thought he is irresponsible or did they say it because they just don't like him?
If you think that your relationship with your boyfriend is great and there's nothing in it that makes you unhappy, then you can assume that it's a good relationship.
If you feel that you will "wake up" in a few years and be unhappy about not having dated more men, then do date around now.
In the end, I think the best thing you can do is listen to your hear and do what feels right for YOU.
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