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writes:Basically my question is How Do You "Move On" When You Feel There Is Still Hope? But here is my scenario:My (ex)bf and I were together for three years. We were both each others first love and real relationship. We connected in such a positive way and felt that we were each others soul mates. We were very "lovey dovey" but mature. Despite the fact that we were deeply in love with each other we thought maybe we should take time away from each other to prove what we had was real. Since we were each others first love and were still young we didnt want to live the rest of our lives thinking what if there is something better out there. We thought maybe we should get it out of the way now, rather than later. Two months ago we took our break and decided the only way to go about it was to not contact each other. I found out a month later that he had been seeing a girl he had been friends with for about a year. Of course I was and still am devistated, but I know this is how things need to play out. Their relationship has escalated over the month and she stays at his place every night. He really seems to like her too. I guess I was not expecting things to turn around as fast as they did. As for me, I decided I don't want to be with anyone else but him. I have not enjoyed my time away and seeing him with someone else kills me, but I feel it will make us stronger in the end. I still have yet to contact him and want to wait until he says something to me. I'm not mad or bitter towards him because this was our decision. Even though he really likes this new girl I still feel he loves me and will come back. I just don't know what to do until then. I don't want to squash him from my memory.
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reader, uluvme0723 +, writes (8 February 2009):
 You don't have to forget about him. But don't stop living because you know that ya'll might be getting back together. You have to realize that hes still living his life, while your down in the dumps. No it doesn't work like that. You can find yourself a friend. It doesn't have to be anything sexual. Just someone to keep you company. It doesn't make any sense to sit around and wait for nothing hun.
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