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How do you know if your boyfriend slept with your roomate?

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Question - (17 June 2009) 8 Answers - (Newest, 19 June 2009)
A female Canada age 30-35, *ored88 writes:

i have lived with my boyfriend for almost 5 mouths now, and i have been getting this werid feeling that they have slept together. i asked my boyfriend if anything had happen with the two of them but he seid no, "why would i want to sleep with her." the roomate has been known to sleep with anything with a dick. maybe i should belive him. but....... i dont.

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A female reader, ilovebowsandcherries United Kingdom +, writes (19 June 2009):

ilovebowsandcherries agony auntwhy not try talking to the both of them together?

if you feel something did happen then talk to them together and just say like it's not fair on you and want to know the truth!!

say it's tearing you up and you need to know.

i personally think she's screwing around trying to get him into bed but he won't have it.

just my oppinion. no harm in talking to them both to find out if when you get them together they're acting weirdly then you know something DEFO has happend.

Hope this helps.

good luck

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A female reader, bored88 Canada +, writes (19 June 2009):

bored88 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

and thank you again for your advice. i know she would NEVER TELL ME. my gut tells me something is not right. but i cant prove they have done anything. i dont know what to do. im finding them so annoying, that i dont wanna be near any of them. what should i do now?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009):

female intuition......trust it.

perhaps this girl is trying to subtly tell you that they did have sex. you asked your bf and he denied it, so why not ask her - outright. you can gauge her reaction to this question.

i don't ever think your bf will admit if he did have sex with her. so instead of wondering and being in the dark, work on this roommate. she hints with the sexual undertones so you are not paranoid. she is dying to tell you something. don't be defensive, or emotional, just try to be factual when you question her. after you get the truth, have you decided what you are going to do with your bf.

in the end , trust your instinct.

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A female reader, ilovebowsandcherries United Kingdom +, writes (18 June 2009):

ilovebowsandcherries agony aunthun i think she just thinks every guy she knows wants her but it's clearly not i mean he clearly wants you!

you're clearly alot better than her.

they all probably see her as easy and stuff, that's why your boyfriend says why would i want you when i got her?

because he's proud he has you because he knows you're not a s*** like this other girl.

you've got nothing to worry about hun i don't think he's stupid enough to go there.

honestly she's just miss "high" and "mighty" thinking everyone wants her and when it's not true she gets a dented ego that's all hun.

Hope this helps :)

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A female reader, bored88 Canada +, writes (17 June 2009):

bored88 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thank you for your replies

i had lived with my boyfriend for a year then we borke up. after we broke up. he got the female roomate. from what i had heard from her and some of mutal friends that he was a mess. he was always getting drunk etc.... so im kinda wondering if they did something while we were seprated.a few frie nds had asked me a question "do you think something ever happen with the two of them" i just ingore the questions, but after my mom had seid it to me, it got me thinking. i remeber one time we were drinking and watching tv with a few people over, when some how she had seid to my boyfriend and his friend "i know you both want me" and my boyfriend replied "why would i want you, when i got her *points to me*" and she looked hurt and insulted. i dont blame her being hurt.

and then yesterday her boyfriend came over and mention some thing not really important but it did lead to the female roomate saying" yes we should be together, just as long dave sleeps in his bedroom and dosnt touch me" she was all mono tone like she has already slept with him and she was looking at me the whole time while saying it. i felt she was being sumg about it.maybe im being pearnoid. im hoping i am.

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A female reader, thatgothgirl20 United States +, writes (17 June 2009):

thatgothgirl20 agony auntTrust your gut. Look for some evidence maybe?

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A female reader, ilovebowsandcherries United Kingdom +, writes (17 June 2009):

ilovebowsandcherries agony aunthas there been any proof or evidence that has indicated he may have slept with her?

perhaps she's said something to him privately and you find it weird they're talking alone without telling you?

or something...?

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A male reader, cmoa12 United States +, writes (17 June 2009):

If he cares about you and does something out of pressure then of corse he won't admit to it because he doesn't want to lose you. Was there anything that made you think that he did stuff with her?

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