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How do you kiss properly??

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Question - (17 January 2006) 31 Answers - (Newest, 4 February 2012)
A female , anonymous writes:

hi

how do i kiss?

i havent got a clue how to do it, i wanna now how to just normally kiss like a peck and how do you kiss with tongues?

i need to know cos i really wanna kiss my boyfriend and i am really ready i just dont know how?

please help!

thank you very much everyone

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A female reader, kisser.lover United Kingdom +, writes (4 February 2012):

It may sound really fake but once you start your lips do it without you even thinking, I was worried about it for ages then it came.

he held the tips of my fingers and leaned forward didn't expect it but I didn't have to think my lips did it without even thinking! So all you really have to worry about it brushing your teeth and where to put your hands!

P.S- He held my hand and it worked out well

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010):

well, i'm going to assume nobody here is from northern ireland? haha. Here we use tongues straight away even if we're just kissing a randomer on a night out. Just relax and let him lead you, follow what he is doing then do the same. Thats all it is really but please do avoid washing machine motion it is thee absolout worse!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010):

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 weeks, and im a junior at school. But don't worry if your first kiss hasn't come yet! And like you say you really want to do it. To be honest there is no correct way to do it, natural instinct just takes over.

If you need to know the basics, TILT your head slowly, (IF YOU SAY MOUTHA IT POSITIONS YOUR LIPS-TRUE!)lean in and kiss him gently, don't push out or pucker your lips when you feel his touch yours! Just pull away slightly and then go back in and kiss him the same only slightly longer. If your quite young I wouldnt advise using your toungue! For older girls and ladies moistion your lips and in your kiss brush your tongue along his mouth. WOrks a treat and doesnt envolve anything too bad!!!

Hoped this helped as I just had my first kiss last week!!

XXX good luck!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2010):

i only kissed my bf last week and theres nothing to it i never kissed eny 1 properly till then and i just followed what he did, and he sed it was perrfectt xx nothing to worry about

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2010):

Seriouslywho is the freak that thinks it's cool to drink each other's saliva? That is so nasty! I have had intimate kisses many times and trust me the best kisses do not involve "drinking" anyones saliva....keep your saliva to yourself....tilt your head, be passionate, and use your lips more and your tongue less- tongue can be nice if done passionately. There is nothing worse than a guy who repeatedly probes you in your mouth with his tongue. It is ridiculous and such a turn off. Gentle and passionate...that's it.

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A female reader, kittensox Canada +, writes (23 January 2010):

basicaly to kiss you first of all need to get your bf to read your body language so he knows you want to kiss him. Next. For a quick peck, lean in quickly and just lightly touch his lips. For a long peck, lean in again and boldly touch your lips on his. For tounge, sorry but im tounge tied so i've never done it but i know what not to do, do NOT stick your tounge in his mouth and wiggle it in circles. That is so disturbing to a man that its a dis. As a nice touch for any kiss try kinda hugging your mans head when you kiss or putting you hands on his waist or "other places". hope this helps.- Kittensox

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009):

Hey

im no expert to this whole thing myself . but im kinda going through the same thing. a few weeks ago i found myself in a hard situaation.My fiend had been talking to my boyfriend, and he told her that he felt ready and wanted to kiss me. I was so worried that if i told him that i didnt want to, he would be totatlly turned off, however, i found things got easier . because i feel comfortable now . ! which is ALWAYS important. anyway, i really like this boy, and although i dont wannt this relationship to be about kissing, and all physical stuff, we agree that this will take our relationship to the next level which is needed because we have past the first step. i mean every night and time we part, we share a kiss for a few moments. however, its nothing more than a peck on the lips and he told me he wants more.. and so do i now . so i decided to find a website that would help me . and this has helped me but im still confused about a few things, so please could someone help me. I want this special kiss to be all natural, and not rushed , and very romantic!!! i know wheer to put my hands, and how to turn my head and everything but i dont know when im suppose to take my lips away from his , ? could someone help me please . thaanks ,

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009):

first thing you need to do is be relaxed, if you are nervous the kiss is just going to be a huge mess. like many people have said, there are different ways to kiss, but one person said there is no wrong way to kiss but that's kind of a lie. i had one boyfriend who for our first kiss was passionate and slow until he brought his tongue into it and basically started sucking on my chin. so don't let your tongue get too worked up because you don't want to seem like a bad kisser. also if you really don't feel comfortable with kissing your boyfriend, or your girlfriend just yet, wait, don't bother rushing the kiss.

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A female reader, JustMeeLikee United Kingdom +, writes (19 January 2009):

well theres a party coming up for me andn i really wanna pull (kiss) and this has been amazong, but how do you no if to go in with open mougth or close?!

and wats best to do wit the tounge?! ta,

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A male reader, Mike151 United States +, writes (1 December 2008):

Thanx guys so much!! I really needed the advice ^^.....now if only i could get her in bed lol

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008):

I kissed a guy for the first time and it did nothing for me. It was really weird because hes way more experienced than me and had toung like down my throat and I didn't know what to do, I kinda clamped and it ruined the whole moment.

After a while we just sat back and listened to music, but it was really weird. I think I turned him off... lol

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008):

How do I kiss properly?

I assume you want to kiss someone you really care for.

First. When you kiss your lips should be totally relaxed and soft. Let your lips ever so lightly brush his and let the tip of your tongue run from one corner of his mouth to the other. Then let your lips slide over his and let the saliva in your mouth wet your lips as you do this. You can do this for as long as it pleases both of you.

Then delve further into his mouth, gently suck at his bottom lip and he should start to suck a little at your mouth and drink your saliva. Let your tongue slip into his mouth, not all the way down his throat, just enough inside that he can suck it gently.

You can let your tongue slide around under his top and bottom lips.

If you truly care for the person you are kissing, then exchanging saliva is a very intimate and exciting thing to do.

He should do all these things to you as well.

Good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008):

i read that someone had said that they didnt kiss until 3 weeks.

my boyfriend and i didnt kiss until 5 months!

but that doesnt effect the amount we love eachother.

to be honest, im not really sure how to kiss properly either. so im using your question as help for myself!

good luck.

x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008):

take it slow, and dont feel afraid.

the more tense you feel, the less pleasurable its gonna be.

for girls - when u SLOWLY start kissing, with tongues,

run your fingers through his hair, or its best to put ur hans on his chest, neck, or cheek.

this will make him more excited.

for guys - run your hands gently around her upper waist,

making her also excited, or run your fingers through her hair, and hold her hand.

this sets the scene perfectly !

so just take it easy, and dont do things u dnt wanna!

such as going further, never be forced by the boy.

if he tries to force you, jog him on.

girls, i hope this helps.

i was scared on my first kiss.

xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008):

First, gaze deeply into your partner's eyes. Then, get nearer (better if the guy acts first). For girls look at the guys lips and then deep into his eyes and smile. When he comes near your lips, stop smiling, you dont want him kissing your teeth! Start of with your mouth closed and then slowly open our mouth(not too big) and next leading to a french kiss if you feel like it. Use your hands. Guys, stroke her face softly and then her shoulders down to her waist. Girls, put your hand through his hair and then his face and then chest. Bring your best feeling towards that person out to feel the sparks in the kiss.

Good luck! Hope this helps

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008):

well dude seriously i kissed a gilr one time and it was great but when u start kissing u get his feeling inside telling u how to do it your way which the girl knows that its you and your kiss explain use and everything so just make it count and dont bump nosie just tilit your head and touch her lips softly but not to fast

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007):

i kissed my bf, and its not that it wasnt a good kiss,( but something just didnt feel right, and i just sorta expected there to be at least a little spark or something...and there wasnt, and my friends r telling me it could be cause he's not the right guy for me, but i really want to make it work, cause i really like him.....

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007):

Wow, such detail, thanks a whole lot!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007):

Hello,

One of the most important things when you are lip to lip kissing is to RELAX YOUR LIPS!!!! The only time you should pucker up is if its a quick peck on the cheek. RELAX!!! Seriously. Being tense and all tightened up dowsn't feel great for you and sends the message to him that you aren't into the kissing idea. Also. dont be in a rish to french kiss. i have been dating my boyfriend (he is the 3rd i have had so far-i'm 16) for 5 months and he and i only french kiss at special occasions when we are alone (or pretty much) and its a special moment. we didn't kiss till our 3rd week and we didn't french kiss, oh gosh, till ike our 2nd month. and WE STILL LOVE EACHOTHER!!! seriously. Savoring the kiss and making it special helps in the long run because kissing still means something even a year down the road. if you kiss to much, like every minute, it takes the feeling away and becomes a habbit for the two of you instead of something special.

Good Luck,

KK

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007):

well really you just go with it when the moments rite tilt your head and get on wit it but be confident because when ya nervouse it wownt be as much fun && there isnt a rite or rong way to do it ! wen the moments rite just go fo it !

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007):

wow i didnt htink they had a website like this. thanks all

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007):

Let the guy always take the lead, unless you really wanna. Follow what he does and sometimes it's better to go slow at first then rush into it all at once. Don't use too much tongue, a mouth full of saliva is not nice. Bleugh. Biting guys lips turns them on if you don't bite it off, but wouldn't go that far if it's your first kiss. Use your hands too, whether they're rubbing his neck or just pulling him in to deeper the kiss?? Good luck babes ^^ 3

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007):

Let the guy always take the lead, unless you really wanna. Follow what he does and sometimes it's better to go slow at first then rush into it all at once. Don't use too much tongue, a mouth full of saliva is not nice. Bleugh. Biting guys lips turns them on if you don't bite it off, but wouldn't go that far if it's your first kiss. Use your hands too, whether they're rubbing his neck or just pulling him in to deeper the kiss?? Good luck babes ^^ 3

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007):

just kiss with your mouth closed

then after a few seconds open your mouth

then slowly put ur tongue into their mouth

and just go with the flow

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006):

Is the first time you kiss always hard and so you cant remember it that much

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006):

All you gotta do is move your tongue around.. in there mouth There is NO WRONG way of kissing... Everyone does it differntly after you have kissed your partner for the first to time you will understand how they like to kiss and u willl use that.. etc

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2006):

as a teenager i kiss a lot of different girls and they all kiss differently but the best kiss i had was at a party i was dancin with a girl when i slowly kissed her on the lips with my mouth closed then i waited for a few seconds and kissed her with my mouth open and slip your tongue inside and just go with it !!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2006):

Im the same i really want to kiss my girlfriend but i just dont no how could someone please tell me

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006):

when you put your toung in his mouth make shure it dont go down his throught.

yust go on get in to it .

you will be fine.

to make him exsited carryonfor at least 2 and ahalf minets or naby longer.

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A male reader, Jayhva112 +, writes (18 January 2006):

You do need to relax. Everything will come to you naturally. Practice makes perfect! It's honestly as simple as that. Same goes for sex!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006):

Okay, first off, you just need to relax. Trust me, at first you're going to feel like you don't know what you're doing, but you kinda just have to go with the flow. Watch some movies with great kissing scenes. Basically, just a peck, is just that. You can handle that, it's how you kiss family. If you want like a soap opera kiss where there is a lot of passion but no tounge you just basically put his upper or bottom lip in between yours and kinda suck and pull away. Suck very lightly, more of a massage. If you wanna tounge kiss you just do the soap opera kiss and every so often slip your tounge in his mouth an massage his tounge gently with yours.

There are guys who like to shove their tongue down your throat, I for one don't like that. It may be your thing, who knows. But if it happens and you don't like it, just pull away suductively and begin to kiss him how you want to be kissed. He'll get the point.

The most important thing...RELAX!!

Hope this helps!

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