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*amurai girl
writes:How do you forgive when you know you'll never forget?i know 'time heals all wounds,' but i am really struggling w/ day-to-day relating and dealing with my partner. i am angry and hurt and i don't trust that he's not stuck in the past (stuck on at least two exes).some days are ok. other days it's all i can think about. i am trying to forgive him (he didn't have sex w/ either of them -- he kept photos of them on his phone [one in lingerie] and i have a hard time understanding why if he hasn't seen or spoken to these women in 3 years.i just see him, sex, our relationship differently and not in a good way. this is, of course, not the only thing that has caused me to disconnect, but the latest in a series of just stupid moves that make me wonder if i should stay. and if i do, how to get over it.he apologized, is remorseful and willing to do 'whatever it takes' to make us work. but, what is so bothersome is that 1) he doesn't get it and 2) he kept the pics for a reason -- he likes looking at them and i think is stuck in the past.what should i do? if i stay, how do i trust him again and focus on the positive? Reply to this Question
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