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writes:My boyfriend of 1 year and I broke up 6 months ago. For 4 months, we remained in contact though he expressed twice that he wished for me to stop contacting him. On the 5th month apart, having settled every unfinished business with him, I said goodbye. This is inspite of the fact that I still love him but I realized I cannot force someone to love me.Well, the wierd thing is, when I stopped initiating the contact..he was the one sending me ramdom msgs on text, calling me at dawn, dropping by my house unexpectedly and telling me stuff like he is depressed or something. Sometimes i reply, sometimes I dont. Recently, I was on vacation and when I opened my roaming..i got messages from him asking me where I am, how I am doing. Then another message half a day apart asking me if I was on vacation, and if I am he wanted to extend his hello to my family. Then he sent me a missed call which I think he is in panic that I didn't answer his messages.I admit I am flattered with this but I want to know if I could rely on his behavior as wanting to get back with me? At some point I feel he still loves me but I don't know how I will find it out without sounding desperate to know.How do i deal with him and what is the best way to know if there is a chance he wants me back? I don't want to keep on guessing but I don't want to pressure him to answer me with this question.What do you all think? Please advise..
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Ginalolabridga. Really appreciate your time to reply to my post.It's a good suggestion that I should give him a chance to talk. I really really feel he has more to say than he actually does but he is such a proud man. Maybe because a lot of things have happened in the 6 months we were apart. But I am still surprised that he still reaches out to me in his own initiative as he made it clear before that he doesn't want to do anything with me anymore. I wonder which one is true and why he can't live up to his word. Here I just live my life and watch him slowly contradicting the words he said. I know I am not supposed to allow this but I still love him and I still want to be his friend atleast. I don't let him touch me anyway or give him the same treatment as when I was his gf.
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