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writes:I need help, a lot of help. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 5 months. It has been all lovey dovey, but recently we have been arguing a lot more. I hate it. I don't know why we argue so much, I don't really even know what we argue about, just little things, I guess. We're not breaking up, I don't want to, he doesn't want to either. We've tried talking about it, but it just messes things up even more. I know people are gonna say "oh, y'all are too young to be in love, blah, blah, blah." I believe love shouldn't have an age, in fact I believe it doesn't have an age. You should be able to love no matter how old. And I really am in love with him, I know, hard to say at my age, but I am. so, can anyone help me figure out what to do about the always, nonstop arguing? Anyway to fix it, without breaking up? Thanks! (: Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 You are right of course, love does not, nor should it have an age. You are wrong in assuming that younger people would not know what love is, no one knows what love is, they can only feel it and decide whether it is strong or not. If what you feel is indeed strong then you two have to decide how to end the arguments.
Talk to each other peacefully and if you feel it is escalating into an argument then stop immediately and take some time to cool down and breathe before talking again. In this way, you can continue talking without losing your tempers. Also, ensure that you understand each other. Listen to him and what he has to say then ensure he is listening to you and he is taking time to understand what you say.
I hope that helps.
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