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writes:I met this guy recently and I have really started to fall for him. He is gorgeous and a nice guy. However, recently he told me he isn't looking for anything serious. I dont think it is because he is a player but more so as he recently moved to the city to a new school and I know its all a new and busy time for him.We have kissed and made out but havent had intercourse. I told him I am not ready yet and he was ok with that.I know what he has said but I cant help that I am starting to fall for him, and I have seen relationships that have started off as being "casual" or not necessarily serious and in time became bf and gf. So my question is, are there any suggestions or tips that could help me make him into a more bf relationship? I am not trying to force or change him nor would I bring up those awkward convos that will make him run...but possibly if anything that could nudge it in that direction...perhaps with my own actions, how I behave, things I say etc? I know its happened for many people before ie something started casual but sometimes things end up in serious relationships. If anyone has any tips or suggestions that could help me get him to see me more in that light over time I would be very very grateful.
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reader, manperson101  +, writes (6 April 2010):
Haha that happened to me at uni... I was single and happy that way. After meeting up with the same girl a few times in the students union bar, I was seeing her. I really didn't want much more to happen apart from maybe some sex and a bit of fun. She held off but I met up with her almost as friends and eventually we drifted into a relationship which lasted a year and a half!
I'd say don't have sex with him so you're doing well so far! He'll want to so he'll spend more time with you until you eventually accept. If you can get the balance right for time you need to spend with him for him to want a relationship with you and time it takes till he gets tired of waiting you to 'be ready' you could rope him in.
Apart from saying play some simple hot and cold or be really nice, laugh at his jokes, be funny and flirty and sexy when your around him, you're going to have to let it take its course.
Good luck and enjoy it!
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