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*dorkableAshley
writes:So my best friend *Nikki is obsessed with being gothic and *Mike. That's all she ever talks about. When we are on the phone or hanging out, every time she will say, "Life is just a waiting room for death." or something about death. Everytime.She's obsessed with being gothic ever since i became her best friend. I had some black lipstick from halloween, (i was a vamp) and she's like, "Omg this would be perfect for my gothic look!" And all she talks about is death and the color black and she thinks she likes the taste of blood. She always talks about *Natalie who threatened us. Mike is a guy i introduced her to. Natalie's boyfriend. They were together then broke up. She won't shut up about him! if i say, "I love my new sweater" she'll reply with, "Omg Mike's sweater is amazing. When i used to hug him, it was warm and smelled good. and then he...." She says she hates posers. Wanna gangsters and punk and emos or whatever. She's always putting them down. Especially preps. What's wrong with preps? How can i tell her she's not gothic, to stop talking about Mike and Natalie? Without making her mad or get sad?
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reader, AdorkableAshley +, writes (28 July 2009):
AdorkableAshley is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yeah thanks i'll try to accept her. But at the same time, i'll just talk with her about this. Thanks both of you!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (28 July 2009):
 You cant really tell her that she isnt gothic - what right have you got to tell her what she is or is not? If she thinks she is a goth then that is her choice and as her friend you need to accept it. She is entitled to live her life the way she wants to, and if she chooses to express herself through the way she dresses and the make-up she wears then that is her choice, and you cannot try and change that.
Often becoming a goth is a way of rebelling as a teenager, and it is a phase that you grow out of. I personally hate the way you teenagers all have these classifications and groups these days, when I was a teenager there were no goths or emos or preps etc, we were all just teenagers who chose to dress the way we wanted! She is just expressing whatever teen angst is going on inside her, yes it might be a bit annoying but she is just expressing herself in a way that feels right for her. I'm sure she will grow out of it eventually, if not she will probably tone it down as she gets older and realise there is more to life than talking about being a goth!
With regards to her talking about this couple all the time, maybe you should just have a subtle word with her and tell her that while you think its cool that she has a crush on Mike, she is talking about him a little too much and you would appreciate it every now and then if you could talk about something else. Tell her that as her best friend you will always be here to listen to her and her problems but with Mike it has gone a little too far and she is becoming obsessive. I'm sure she probably doesnt realise that she is talking about him all the time, so if you try and tell her in a nice way that she is becoming a little obsessed then she will try to stop for you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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