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*hortspotsbabe
writes:So me and my boyfriend for 4 months recently had sex and he wants it a lot now. Like he wants me to send him pictures and everything. I told him I'm not his personal playboy and he got upset. I'm a sweet girl and hate seeing him upset. But I don't want to send pictures. How do I tell him this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Candycane1234  +, writes (30 May 2012):
 Don't send him the photos unless you're head isn't on them no one will know it's you if it gets out. At least your boyfriend wanted pics of you.
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reader, SOShelp +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Don't send the pictures! But if it does happen keep this article as reference because it is illegal for him to post pictures of you without your consent.
Just don't take any and then there is nothing to send. You sound like a really nice girl so don't let this boy push you around and abuse your kind nature. There is a line between what is kind and what is fair and if in doubt stay behind the 'fair' line instead of doing something you might regret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): Be strong and tell him that you are not comfortable sending pictures to him and he will need to get over it. You are 100% doing the right thing, and don't give into his childish sulking over it...very immature on his part.Has there not been enough information out there on how careless and stupid it is to send those kind of pictures over the phone???? Be smart and don't give into a decision you will likely regret down the road... Though it goes on all the time and people are still being stupid and not thinking about their actions, I do believe in most states this action is now considered illegal....not worth even going there from that stand point.I am not saying the relationship is going to fall apart, but often at your age, relationships change, boyfriends come and go...if this relationship should go south for whatever reason, who knows what could happen to those pictures and where they might end up....boys do stupid things, sorry that's just the way it is...and girls do stupid things too...once you take it and send it, there is no taking it back. And don't think for a second he is going to keep those private...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): Yeah don't do it, he's acting upset to try and make you change your mind. If you have to be firm and tell him to respect you or he's going to risk losing you. At your age relationships do tend to change and you have to be very very wary. One photo now and he could keep it for years and you don't know who he may show it to etc... He may not seem the type to do that, but he's your bf at the moment should anything change an intimate photo could come back to haunt you. If he throws a strop over it tell him to grow up, your not his property and quite rightly not his personal playboy. If he wants to have you in the flesh he better stop sulking or he'll be back to his magazines and hand for company.
In all seriousness if I were you I would say "I have already told you how I feel about sending pics, it's not me. Not every woman feels the urge to strip and send a pic of it and you have to respect me. Just because I am your girlfriend does not make me an object for you to look at to relieve yourself. I would appreciate it, if you want me to stay as your girlfriend, you will drop this and enjoy the sex life we are having instead of sulking over what we won't do."
That's life and not everyone will try everything, most boys are completely messed up by porn and think women in real life will do the things they see on the Internet. Stick to your decisions and if he tries to manipulate you or act all upset, they're plenty of other guys out there who are not so immature. Best of luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): Why not just send them to him? Are you uncomfortable with him or something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): he should understand if you dont want to send him pics, you still dont feel confortable doing so or you wont feel confortable doing it. I personally can say that after a year of being with someone we started doing this, not before.
this is something very personal and you need to really trust the person.
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