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writes:I have been on 2 seperate dates with this guy I like. Ive known him for awhile but just recently let him know I liked him. Hes made several sexual comments (nothing involving us two-but hes def not the prudish type). I would have sex with him but he hasnt made a move yet. I havent either. I dont want him to think of me as trashy, he would be the second guy ive slept with (if we do), I dont just have sex with random guys or any guy, ive liked him for awhile now. Thing is we cant do it at my house (i live with family-im over 25-i do not want to live alone). So I cant be like want to watch a movie etc? I was thinking of renting a dvd and telling him I have this movie would he be interested in watching it, only thing is I cant at my house.I need a subtle way of letting him know I want to have sex. I dont feel comfortable saying "hey want to meet up and have sex?" Im worried he will say no or think im dumb. I want something where i dont have to say anything like maybe handing him a condom and saying "do you want to" (im worried he will think that is dumb).
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): You could try having a propeer conversation wit him. You could tell him that you want to move your relaionshp to the next stage. hopefully he will take the hint.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 May 2009):
 I agree with Satindesire.
You might fancy him or more bluntly be in LUST with him. Nothing wrong with being attracted to someone physically. But two dates?
Do yourself a favor and TAKE your time to get to know him.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (13 May 2009):
 You've only been dating him for a little while. I mean, TWO dates? That's really not a very long time for you two to get to know each other. Are you sure you want to move this fast into a sexual relationship with him?
Your hesitation to ask him or broach the subject screams that you're simply not ready.
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reader, Annalisa  +, writes (13 May 2009):
 You know, I've never had to tell a guy I was ready!
When you go out with him and kiss him good-bye, kiss him passionately, put your arms around him and press your body against him so he can feel your nipples and your body close enough for you to feel him getting aroused.
Kiss him like you want him and he'll know you're ready for him to make a move!
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reader, Mr.Insignificant +, writes (13 May 2009):
 Find time to make out and once you are both aroused, let your fingers do the talking. A subtle yet deliberate over-the-pants quick stroke of his manhood should get things going. If he is still slow to catch on, whisper in his ear and tell him that your body is aching for his touch.
If that doesn't work, he may have an apprehension that the two of you will need to discuss. You will most likely need to ask him about it outright.
good luck.
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