A
male
age
30-35,
*ellium
writes:Hello everyone!I've been having very bad times in the past 5 weeks, mostly because of the breakup with my ex. Well, I've got now the feeling that I want to approach other people, oder girls and have fun in life again :)The problem is that I'm not so shure how to do this approach! I'm a little interested in a girl witch knows pretty well my ex! I've already had interesting conversations with her, and she told me that she already had plenty of trouble in her life (rape, her parents divorce, etc) so she isn't stupid and naive anymore.The problem that I have is that I don't want to give her the idea that I'm attracted to her by trying to approach her. As a matter of fact, I only want to get to know her better, but I know that a girl always has the idea "he is trying to seduce me" or so whenever a boy tries to have a conversation with her.I want a way to get closer to her without making her think this! If I write her a message or I call her, I'm sure that it will happen!Is there a way out??Thanks!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Truth is always the best policy. E-mail her and tell her just what you said in your posting. That you find her interesting, that you enjoyed your conversations, that you are curious about her and you'd really like to get to know her better. Not necessarily as a boyfriend,or as a sexual partner, right now you are not ready for a new relationship. Nevertheless, you appreciate her companionship and would like to spend more time with her if she gives you the chance.
It should work. Any girl is more flattered of being thought interesting and worth knowing than just of being considered attractive.
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