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writes:My problem.... I must not email/text everyone over every detail and tell world my news.. Not good It is like I can’t deal with my emotions, and so I have to air them to everyone else, then I say something and then feel bad, guilty or conflicting about what I have said. And then go back on it, or say something else, like I fuss about it. I tell everyone the in’s and out’s of my life, work, ex, my boyf and one minute in love with one, then feel guilty for saying it and say no other, same as work one minute love it, next don’t, so say the other (this is to friends and family) Same as when with people, like my boyf, I will email say I love you, then get mad at him over something and email 5 mins later a different message then feel guilty and think that is not bad really, what if lose him, so email back again etc. I know that I must not tell everyone every detail of my business and yet I can’t stop and I don’t want to. So I am on here to ask how to stop and also to start the stopping process myself, like a kind of “I hereby am going to stop doing this” That is it really, I am stopping telling the world my business from this moment forth
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): Hi
I have been guilty of the same thing, but have grown to realise that it must get a bit much sometimes to those you tell, especially if your conversations with thhem are all about you and your problems/issues. Keeping a journal is a good idea. I try to keep things to myself alot more now and find that by not sharing and airing every detail things dont get so out of proportion and I actually deal with it better. After all other people may give you advice , but in general people do what they want whatever other people may advise.
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 You're using your Blackberry or whatever device that you have, as an instant thought process. As in "did I just say that out loud?"
Seriously, try and put the electronic media down. There's a big happy world out there where you can enjoy realtime reality without electronic assistance.
Try finding a newspaper or magazine and reading it any time you want to pick up the device and start thumbing your friends or boyfriend or ex.
You don't need to hang on every pixel of info coming through that device.
You do need to start learning how to be happy interacting with true reality not virtual reality. Trust me, you'll be much happier.
As for the other responders here, I would have to say that if you keep a paper journal (like you actually use a pen to write on it), and show it to no one but yourself, your thoughts will be safe and your loved ones and friends will not get mad at you and think you're a head-case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): LOL!! Don't take it all so serioulsy!! You are not harming anybody!! don't worry about it. :o)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (10 September 2009):
 Get a journal, write it all down there - let it out but keep it to yourself.
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (10 September 2009):
I have had this problem before and its a very good question.You first have to think before you speak. The possible consequences that come attached to your words. How they make others feel. How they effect your life negatively. The power of the tongue is the most powerful thing on earth. Words created and changed history.( just to give you an example HITLER) It may sound dumb but its very true. People brainwash control people with words.. Words can come back to haunt you... Something said can cause a person to kill or commit suicide. That is why evryone has to be careful about what they say. My mother once told me no one needs to know every intimate detail of your life.You never give people ammunition to hurt you. It is ok sometimes to talk to certain people and open up but sometimes its not. Especially about everything. The key here is there is a time aand place for everything. Sometimes things are better left unsaid. If its not constructive or benificial important intelligent or life changing probably best to keep it yourself .. I mean for your benifit as well as everyone elses.
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