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writes:my close friend cut ties with me completely. my friend was going through some personal issues. my friend would not make many plans with me. sometimes my friend would cancel plans and not give a reason. or my friend would say no to spending the evening with me and give no reasons. my friends reason would be "its personal and i can't tell you. however, our friendship is good. i need space". slowly i got suspicious and started to suspect that my friend is purposely trying to distance from me and the issues in his/her life is not as big as the way it is potrayed. i lost trust. feeling smothered by my insecurities, my friend cut me out coldly. i feel hurt that instead of telling me what was going on as the issues, my friend chose to hurt me.my friend told me i only think for my benefit (as in selfish) Reply to this Question
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reader, Griffo +, writes (23 February 2009):
 Is it a he or a she???
This question is important as men and women mostly have different ways of doing things such as communication, sexual desires, friendship, emotion, etc.
Anyway... What ever happened this person is distancing his/her self from you because you may have been too obsessive, i can tell by the way you said you "slowly got suspecious", also you would have done some investigation to become suspecious in the first place and investigation would mean calling, speaking to other mutual friends, sending messages to see what reactions you would get, etc.
Another thing is your friend has done a very cruel thing, you see for a relationship to be successfull weather its a boyfriend, girlfrind, best friend, a father, a mother, a wife, a husband, a brother, a sister and so on "communication" is the key. If he/she was really truly your friend he/she would say something to you. Now its sounding more like a girl because a girl would ignore a guy more than a guy would ignore a girl, most guys would just say he's not interested or into you to your face unless he's got no balls, but im not gonna sit here and guess what sex this person is, maybe if you provide the sex of the person we can elaborate more on the reasons why this person has cut off communcation with you.
Are you just saying this person is your friend but really you show signs of attraction to him/her? Because theres no use saying your "friends" with someone when you have to maintain that too, and it goes both ways. Do you really truly love this friend?
Anyway... Please add some more detail so we can help you more.
Be strong :) Talk soon.
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