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writes:How do i stay strong?i split up with my ex about 2 weeks ago now. ive been doing so well being strong and not contacting her and trying to get out and do stuff. today though ive been feeling really lonely. i really want to see her, look her up again on fb, call her but i know i shouldnt.ive come on here rather than do any of those things.does anyone have any advise on how i can still remain strong? i know its difficult but i really want to get through this and not be weak and contact her. she'd meet me but i know only as a friend and that would hurt.thanks for any advise.
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reader, danni123  +, writes (18 November 2012):
hi there well your doing everything right to move on from her, may i ask why the relationship ended in the first place? breakups are horrible for men and women, when you truely loved that person, of course its gonna take time to get over her many breakups do take a while to get over some can do it quicker than others, and i bet 9 times out of 10 shes probs feeling the same as you do maybe shes waiting for u to make the first move, who knows but i need to no why u broke up cus if there was cheating involved then your absolutly right in moving on, once that trust is gone it cant be brought back, hope this helps, take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): Ah Facebook, literally the worst invention for break ups. You do know there are apps which can block you from Facebook right? You can set them to only allow you an hours access a day and stuff.
Keep busy, get drunk with your friends but not too much, talk to people, take up new hobbies or start spending more time with friends, the new Call of Duty is out and Halo 4, FIFA 13, Football manager 13, no time for women when your handing dudes asses to them on those games. There's tonnes of things you can fill your time with. Get that app for Facebook, having easy access to her profile is an addictive nightmare.
OP you're a free single guy now, you get to hang around the house all say in three day old crusty underwear and only shower once a week, you get to eat pizza in bed while having a two hour wank session to porn. you get to get drunk and flirt and dance with random women, even get the shift. Be happy, it's awesome.
Seriously though man, reactivate your social life and just get busy. If you head for pints give your phone to a friend to mind or leave it at home, drunk texts are the worst things ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2012): break ups suck. I'm sorry you are going through a break up, if it makes you feel better, I'm going through the same and it's been just 10 days since my breakup. Allow yourself time to grieve, also as all my friends told me, keep yourself busy, hang out with your buddies, read if you like reading, go to the movies. Mind you you will still think about her and miss her, it takes time but the hurt will be less ever day. Be strong, I keep telling myself be strong, stand your own ground and here is a good advice I can give, in fact I read in one of the postings on this site keep telling yourself: "I'm going to take every day as it comes. I'm going to breath in and out and tell myself I did everything I could, it just wasn't enough. Now it's time to find myself" I hope this helps and good luck.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 November 2012):
 Keep on reminding yourself you are a good person and deserve love. Do not be her friend. Do not believe in break ups and make ups. Have a firm resolution that the relationship is over. Be patient with yourself. Allow yourself to feel sad and do not fight your feelings. You know you will get through this and that there will be a better match for your future.
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