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writes:So here is the situation. Me and my gf have been dating for over 2 years. For the past couple month we been arguing on and off every few days. And they were not huge arguments, they were the small ones that were settled the same night. But recently she got really really busy with her business and schooling and whatnot, and it seems we are drifting apart. We would talk less and less every day, and it seems the stress is taking a toll on her physically and emotionally. I feel as if we are falling apart, but we are still intact. We still love each other (so as she says) and still make time to talk to each other at night. But my question is, does stress really take a toll on the relationship? (Our relationship is long distance, and has been throughout the entire relationship). Would stress drive away two people in the relationship? I mean I love her to death and I don't want to lose her at all, but it seems like "I am just there for the ride". We have talked a lot about getting married and planned our future and I have no doubt she is the person I want to marry, but it's really depressing the way things are going right now. When we talk she seems more straight forward (not necessarily rude) and she has changed a lot from before. Can you guys provide me with some past experience or advice? I mean if I am patient and wait it out is it really gonna bring us closer? I am not obsessive or needy or anything, it's just everything is happening all at once and so suddenly. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Stress takes a toll on any relationship, especially a LDR...I am in one myself. We love each other very much and want to be together. We just go round and round as to how we are going to get together. We both have stress in our jobs too. And yes we do get into arguments and our insecurities and imaginations add to that.
The greatest blessing we have is our ability to communicate! It is our most important gift. And it is what gets us through it all!
Try to open up those lines of communications and let her know how you are feeling. Don't hold anything back.
I wish you all the happiness that I have found!
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