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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone!Just wondering if anyone can share advice on how to not make myself sick (hypothetically speaking) knowing that he is "with" other women? Boyfriend of two years cheated in the past and after trying to work through things many times, I've finally said "forget it," but am having a hard time dealing with knowing that he is already flirting and probably sleeping around. I know I am better off without him, and that I should just get over the feeling, but it is proving to be harder than I thought it would be. Any thoughs and tips would be greatly appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): Hi.
A cheater will most likely always be a cheater. You do not need a relationship to be you. There are many special things that you are without being with somebody. Be yourself. Know yourself. Be at peace with who you really are.
Now you are thinking that you are reading a response from a religious nut, but not so; I am married but have been there and seen that.
I honestly hope you find yourself, find peace, and find true love.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): I guess it must hurt to think that he is already with other women. But that just means that he failed to appreciate you and didn't see what makes you special. Because everyone is special in their own way. Just because this guy is moving on already, it doesn't mean that you were not worthwhile. You are, and you are still very loveable. It is his loss.
I think you did the right thing, but even when we know that it can still hurt. It can take time until things feel better. Try and keep in mind all of the reasons why you are better off without him. And remember that this hasn't been a waste. This experience will make you stronger, because it has forced you to think about what you will and will not put up with in a relationship. It made you take a stand and say enough is enough. That strength will last and will benefit you in more situations in the future.
In the meantime, keep going, try and keep yourself distracted from him, and have faith that it will start to feel better with time. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): Think about how it would be if you were still with him and always uncertain and thinking of him with others. This would be a permanent state of affairs.
What you are experiencing now is temporary. It hurts at the moment but you can and will get over it and move on. Try to get as much support as possible from others, go out, do things you enjoy, fill your life with things that take your attention away from him.
You will be much happier without him.
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