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36-40,
anonymous
writes: hi everybody how can i move on from a drug user that i love so very much ...We always said that we were always going to stay together no matter what but it hurts so much seeing him killing himself with the drug and all the lies he been saying i cant anymore so i take change and left him but he keeps on calling telling me that he loves me but i just cant nomore its so hard .....but i have to let him go for the better i just hope one day he'll wait up and realize that what we had was real ..I wanted a family with him but i guess thats not gonna happen
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): Hi You're doing the right thing by yourself. I've been down that road and there is nothing but heartache and pain waiting for you, if you follow him. Yes, it is hard seeing someone with the POTENTIAL to be great, kill themselves. But a persons potential is not a good enough reason for your love. What he is doing at the present moment, is what should be the reason to love someone.
I was with an addict, through her period of using the drug, through to the period of recovery. It ended awfully as all her issues throughout that time came spilling out and overwhelmed what was essentially a carer/user relationship. Not a caring, nurturing, mutually respectful relationship. It was a codependents nightmare. I would say 99.99% of drug/alcohol abuse relationships are.
Save yourself more heartache than you feel now. Honour yourself.
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