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writes:My bf and i were engaged for 9 months, but had a huge fight and he has taken the ring back. I feel he is addicted to computer games and he has called me an alcoholic. I love him dearly but cant take his stubborn ways anymore. He use to be so caring and comforting, now it feels like he just doesn't care anymore. I want to make this work. What do I do.
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reader, Fade878  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 Are you an addict as well? To alcohol? Is he really an addcit? To computer games?
The things that bothers me here is the word ADDICT. An Addict will find other means to adopt an addiction be it alcohol, smoking, sex, shopping, stealing, lying, gossiping, eating...the list goes on.
We all battled addictive behaviours and we all have fears.
What is it you fear your Fiance is doing or what his computer games are doing? Do you fear he isn't spending enough time with you? Doesn't love you?
There is something at the root of your complaint so figure that out.
Do know that men and woman recharge themselves in different ways.
For men it may be watching tv or playing pc games.
For women it may be shopping, visiting friends.
I say compromise is always the best way to go.
Let him play games but...how about he can do it for x hours but you have Friday and Mondays evenings for you.
I hope this has helped.
Best Wishes.
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 I am very sorry you are going through this. Is it true what he says, are you an alcoholic? Aside from his video addiction, maybe he is right if you are. It could be a good time to work on your addiction and he on his so you can start out with a healthier foundation for your marriage. What do you think?
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