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writes:i really want my ex back, but because when we first broke up i did the typical girl thing and panicked and text him and rang him so he didnt even get a chance to miss me. he said to my friend he thinks we'd be back together if i hadn't have done those silly things, but it put him off and now he just wants to be alone. I just want him to miss me, and realise that breaking up wasn't the best thing for him..but not sure how to do that? i know ringing and texting has to stop..please help
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 If a man likes you he'd be the one not allowing you to miss him. Why should you have to repress all your feelings so you appear uninvolved? You can't make him feel anything... I'm sorry. I really am, I also bloomin-well wish I knew where to buy the "make him miss me... make him give a sh1t" potion but unfortunately its not for sale. He has to offer it. If you have to make him miss you then you also have to question how genuine that "missing" is.You are being a typical girl though - in that you think everything is your fault. When you say "how can I make him miss me" that tells me you believe that you have some level of control over how he feels... Honey, you cannot make up a grown man's mind for him.He's made his choice, and you're not it. Then he tried to pin it on you. Classy...But here's the thing - if I am not responsible for how he chooses to feel, if I can't MAKE him feel anything, if its not my fault,if I can't MAKE him miss me, can't MAKE him interested, then that means I can't MAKE him lose interest. And its not my fault he doesn't want to appreciate a good thing when he sees it. Bum face.So here's what I'll do - because I'm far too busy and popular to be waiting around for Mr Sh!tty Whatshisname- I'm gonna focus on developing ME and making my fine ass look gorgeouse and living my life and healing and celebrate so when Thingmadude does realise that he's a Sh!thead, it'll be too late because I'll have got out of this situation with my head held high! With a formerly-aching-newly-healed heart. With my dignity. Without defining my worth on the actions of another human being. Without holding myself resposible for the calculated choices of a grown man.If you've liked what I've written please read "He's Just Not That Into You" I recomend it to all the girls - It really changed my life and helped me heal from relationships that were beneath me. i t helped me find my dignity that I'd allowed men to steal from me and would still be allowing, were it not for the reality checks in the book.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Actually maybe it's too late because he's already said he's over me but I don't know whether he's just saying it because he's said to my friends he still cares about me...So I don't know
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reader, taina1980  +, writes (25 November 2008):
just do your own thing for now.... try to distract your mind with diffrent hobbies...call him once in a while and keep conversation very brief... when you do talk to him sound very happy...and give hime time he will miss you once he thinks he may not have you...
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reader, Anil D  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 to be honest u should go and apologise for what u did. r u sure he still feels for u ?? if he does, he will surely turn to u sooner or later. u will have to be bit patient though. u just have to be sorry and tell him that u really miss his presence in ur life and have changed. he will understand. then leave him for some while to think . hope i helped. al the best !
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