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writes:I met my bf through being mates with his 1st wife and Ive been with him for 4 years now, and when I met him he had split up with his 2nd wife.That was at xmas time, by the Feb we had decided to go on holiday, we had a great time but when we got back they decided to get back together. They havnt lived together for 10 years and have seperate houses he spends 6 nights a week at mine and takes her out on a sat. During our time together we have been through a lot of trials and family worries my dad went to prison his 16 yr old son committed suicide,I have finished the realashonship so many times and he keeps worming his way back in. The only way out I can see is to move from area. Ive even spoke to his wife and told her i cant get rid of him. If im in a pub and talking to a man when i go to toilet he beats them up. How do I make him leave me alone.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (13 September 2007):
You need to learn how to say no. I suggest you date a big strong guy he can't beat up. Maybe a cop or a black belt.
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reader, secrets-x-sh! +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Hey there,I kind of understand your story here, you havnt made it really clear and its alittle confusing but what you have said my opinion is that he obviously likes you and since use two went on holiday together he probably feels really close to you and you have gave him the impression you like him too, also 6 times a week is alot of time which will make him grow closer to you.You say that you have both been through some horific times .im sorry to hear. but he is probably feeling the same way as you about things; a little depressed and sick, so he wants to be with you cause you know how he feels and its hard for a man to discuss there feelings but you alreay know them. Also with his 16 year old son commiting suicide i mean he is probably in desperate need of abit of comfort and needs to talk to someone or cry on a shoulder, the man must think hes a failiure as a parent, im only sayin he might ( i dont know the backgorund on the story).Hovever beating up men when you talk to them is going wayy over the top, tht does need to be sorted! its probs losing mates of yours and making you really down.Try and talk to him, get him when hes in a calm mood, not drunk or depressed or angry. just at the right time , you will know when this is. Just ask him how he feels about you and if he does feel tht strong about your friendship or relationship then he should stop it. Make it very clear that if he doesnt then there will be consiqences, whatever you feel is posible.You shouldnt have to move out of an area because of someone, dont let someone rule your life. its YOUR life, you only live once, dont let 1 person rule you.If violence or abuse takes place inform police, hes not right if he decides to take actions like this, it would be for your on good .I have tryed to give you a range of adivce and hopefully i have helped but im only a 15yr old girl at the end of the day, dont do anything you dont feel comfortable with, im not an exspert.Goodluck xx
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