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writes:My girlfriend went visit a friend at college. She's 17 and went to a college party and drank alcohol. I wasn't mad about that, but she hasn't drank large amounts of alcohol all at once ever. She told me she had 9 shots, 3 mixed drinks, and 2 beers all in about 5 hours. I also asked what the shots were and said she didn't know and it was whatever she was given by her friend. I'm currently in college and have seen women get drugged and know all about date rape drugs and tried to tell her what I've seen and she doesn't know how serious it is. All she tells me is that she got drunk, but always had "complete control" over herself and remembers every little detail from the night. I am very skeptical of what she believes happened to her that night. I know she shouldn't be drinking in the first place but If you overlook the illegal drinking aspect, am I wrong for being mad at her for what she's done, and if so how can I make her realize she was drinking way too much for her first time as well as being ignorant of whats happening around her.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 If it was a one time thing, why are you so worried? What can you do? Don't get me wrong, I totally get your concern, really I do, but she's not going to learn a lesson by you simply telling her that she should.
Damn near everybody I know drank WAAAAY too much the first time they went drinking. We all make mistakes, so instead of being the wet blanket, just have a quick chat with her next time she's planning to go out. Just tell her you'd love it if she had a buddy looking after her, didn't accept drinks from strangers and drank water in between drinks, to be safe and have lots of fun!
What else can ya do? Maybe tell her a few horror stories?
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (6 December 2010):
 You shouldnt be upset. While its cute you are worried its not fair to her. She is younger then you. She is prolly curious. You can tell her all the bad things that can happen to her but then you saound just like her parents. She drank. Just briefly tell her that you really care for her and are afraid of her being taken advantage of because of her drinking. AND LEAVE IT ALONE.
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