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writes:I live in scotland and have been talking to this guy now, my boyfriend apparently but we've been talking for 7 months and he doesn't like phoning plus we haven't met. Im serious about him but have my doubts that he is a fake. He lives in wales so to me I don't know whether he is really real or fake? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2011): I hate internet dating with a passion!!!
This is how so many people get hurt. If you have not met some one face to face then I would suggest you move on and find a guy that you know a bit better. If you do want to meet him like one of the other aunts said do it in a busy place and dont get fooled the first time you meet him, dont go to far the first time. Or you can ask another guy friend or friend to be near by where you meet for protection. Just be sure and follow your instinct :)
Good Luck:)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 December 2011):
 have you ever talked to him on the phone or skype?
how far apart are you?
meeting someone online means you have to trust but after a short amount of time, you need to be talking on the phone and video chatting on skype and making plans to meet and be together.
LDRs cannot exist just online in a vacuum…
LDRS need:
HONESTY
TRUST
COMMUNICATION
REGULAR VISITATION (And an effort by both parties both physically and financially to make this happen)
And finally, A PLAN TO END THE DISTANCE.
IF you have a gut feeling something is wrong somewhere it probably is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2011): Do you regularly see him on webcam? Are you able to call him any time you want to? If you answer no to either of those questions then he is fake or already in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2011): This boy could be some lonely person who could be male or female. I had a few older friends fall for this sort of 'relationship' only to discover they were not who they claimed to be.
These people make up all sorts of excuses to not talk on the phone, go on web cam, or meet in person. They do not want to be discovered. They use the false facade of someone else because they want companionship. Someone to talk to. Some may even be dellusional and caught up in the online fantasy world of being someone else.
My one male friend fell in love with some woman that was late 20s by a profile on a date site. She would come up with reasons why she couldn't go on cam or talk on the phone. Finally, after a year, she confessed she was a lonely 60 year old woman and went on a Russian date site to 'borrow' images of a 27 year old model.
She was outed when my friend rasied funds to go visit her in her home state. She talked on the phone with him and came up with she didn't sound too good because she had a spider allergy to a spider bite and had to be on a respirator. ;)
So, I would suggest exactly what Lexie says. Call or cam chat, then meet up in a public place, take a trusted family member or friend as well.
If he declines or comes up with excuses- I'd say he is a fake.
Hope all goes well.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (6 December 2011):
 What do you want from this whole thing? Do you want to meet the guy? If so, tell him it's been great chatting online but you'd like to hear his voice. If that goes well, suggest meeting up in Scotland. If you get to that stage, have him come to you and meet him for coffee/lunch at a busy cafe.
Ask and you shall know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): i know it's easier said than done, but you need to just get over this guy. if it was going to go anywhere, it would have by now, trust me, i've been in this situation before. if in doubt, do nout. if that fails, ask him to go on webcam. or google him! stay safe, meeting people off the internet is risky. good luck xx
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