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How do I know if he feels the same way as me ?

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Question - (23 March 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 23 March 2007)
A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am in love with someone, we aint been on any dates, but we are very close. how do i know if he has feelings for me?

if got no mutaul friends. when he see each other, we both give each a look, and when he talks to me, he cant make eye contact with me for long. he sometimes looks away when i look at him.

when we both do look at each other, we both smile. but i dont get this smile from my other friends.

he has put his arm round me, sends me kisses, gives me hugs (when we hug, we hold each other for a while - normally when i hug a friend it doesnt last that long).

he tells me everythind. and if any exciting happens he wants me to know straight away.

there is loads more...but some help on what i told u would be great

thanks x

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A female reader, agony aunt j United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2007):

agony aunt j agony aunti know you're worried about it ruinging the friendship you have if you tell him, but if you've been feeling like this for a while now and you're sure it's not just a stage, then i really think you should tell him. yes, he may think it's crazy, but then again he might feel it himself. he is showing signs of liking you back, but if i'm honest this could just be because you're such a close friend. i know about the looks thing, so it can be hard. sometimes his eyes speak louder than any words could, but other times you cant understand what he wants to say. believe me, i know it's hard, but you need to be honest with him. it will be affecting your friendship anyway if you dont tell him because you cant hide your feelings forever. maybe it's good to tell him, you never know, he might just turn around and say thats exactly how i feel! if he doesn't, it might be awkward for you both but atleast everything is out in the open. plus, i think if you keep your feelings bottled up, it will only hurt you more in the long run.

hope i've helped...feel free to message me again to let me know how it goes!


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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007):

There's a slight possibility that he likes you back but maybe you are just hoping so and are reading the signals wrong. Maybe instead he just wants to be close mates with you. The only way you are going to ever know whether he feels the same way as you is to put your feelings on the line. But is it really worth it? Is it worth risking your friendship if you say your feelings to him and he doesn't feel the same way? How are you going to react if you tell him how you feel and he doesn't feel the same way back? (i mean will you cut off the friendship?) How about if he does feel the same way, you both start a relationship and then you split up. Will you remain friends as it's a huge possibility that it'll affect your friendship? Consider these questions before telling him how you feel. Best thing to do is just to keep him as a friend, move on and find someone else in which you love and are positive loves you back. That way you have your friend plus a boyfriend.

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