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male
age
36-40,
*anathal
writes:Ok I'm new at this, but here goes... I have been dating my girlfriend for six months now and I am loving it. It is safe to say that we are in love and I am head over heels for her. What I need advise with is this, she is insecure. Normally this wouldn't bother me at all, I am a very supportive guy. But she get's really upset (sad not angry) when I hang out with my female friends. Even when she sees photos of me with other female friends that were taken before we met. She says that it's alright if I want to hang out with them, because she is just "being stupid" (her words). She's not the kind of girl who won't allow me to have female friends, she just gets upset by them. Unfortunately for me, most of my friends are girls. I just want to know what I can do. I love her and I don't want to cause her pain, but at the same time I don't want her to get upset when I am with a friend. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): Get some new friends, male preferably. Seriously.....or take her out to meet all your female friends. I happen to believe that most male and female freinds consist of someone wanting sex with the other but have not acted on it yet, and you are a man with hormones and under the right or wrong circumstances depending on how you look at it, can be tempted to have sex with so called female friend. I don't think she is insecure, she is being a girlfriend and if you are head over heels then you need to understand her boundaries where other females are concerned and you need to set boundaries with these female friends are concerned in relation to your relationship with your girlfriend. Cheers! Time for commitment? Time to make a concious choice to put her needs above your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): Get some new friends, male preferably. Seriously.....or take her out to meet all your female friends. I happen to believe that most male and female freinds consist of someone wanting sex with the other but have not acted on it yet, and you are a man with hormones and under the right or wrong circumstances depending on how you look at it, can be tempted to have sex with so called female friend. I don't think she is insecure, she is being a girlfriend and if you are head over heels then you need to understand her boundaries where other females are concerned and you need to set boundaries with these female friends are concerned in relation to your relationship with your girlfriend. Cheers! Time for commitment? Time to make a concious choice to put her needs above your own.
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