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writes:How do i get talking to my ex again?I want us to talk and be friends again. We just grew apart after we split up, he has since cleaned up his act from drugs. I broke things off because of it, we are seeing other people but i still care about him and just want us to talk again and to just be friends. I don't know what to do or what i would say to him but i think of him constantly and he only lives down the road.. advice please ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): So just be like..."hey, wana go get some coffee and catch up?" or something. But if ya get rejected dont push it. Or y'know if you see him around say hi or whats up.
Im sure you care enough to wonder how he is or stay in touch, just dont push it, itll annoy him and keep him away.
Good luck xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Technically, you've got nothing to lose by reaching out to him and seeing how he responds. Easiest way is probably through email, messenger, or a phone call/text--all of which are minimally invasive compared to a full-on face-to-face meeting.
Before you go for it though, have you thoroughly thought about what contacting him might stir up? I'm just suggesting potential problems: does he have any reasons to resent you or be annoyed by you contacting him? Also, do you think the person he's seeing right now would be fine with you getting in touch with him again? If you think your contacting him will cause any sort of trouble, I'd say think twice, and maybe don't do it after all. You've both moved on from your past relationship, and even though you want to approach him as a friend, unless your significant other and his significant other are totally cool and understanding about it, it might lead to unnecessary problems because you and the guy used to be together. Maybe just be happy that he's cleaned up his act and is happy now and keep at a distance.
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