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writes:I'm 14 and my sister is 16 and we get into major fights all the time now ever since there was this things with her boyfriend and her and it's not just little fights over something stupid like who's using the bathroom longer but major stuff... and I try talking to my dad about it but he says well you just gotta give her time she'll get over it but it's been like this for at least a month and he always says to over look the stuff that she says but she says stuff that makes me just wanna pop her a good one across the face... like one day she mentioned something about how I'm not really part of the family ever since my dad legally adopted me after my mom died and it makes me just SOOOO mad..... My question is how do I get over all of this anger I always have towards her? What can I do to stop our fighting?????? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Im adopted and when I was growing up I had the same from my sister who is my parent biological child... Pops here and pops there and I had a temper and one day I just flipped.. She slammed a door in my face and I went to stop it from shutting in anger but the top half of the door was thick glass and my arm went right through it, just missing my major vein I didnt feel a thing hunny I was so upset and my emotion came out as anger as I couldnt show it in any other way then as I was young and angry at the whole situation, You sister is young and angry and hurting for some reason and taking it out on you..You are worth so much sweetheart that my advise to you is dont let her get to you as hard as it may be, As you are special and never forget that as you grow you will understand more, You will have learnt from this and no that to hurt another persons feelings is not nice as you feel it yourself so you will be a better person for it.. Belive me I no how hard it is I remember it like it was yesterday the hurtfull remarks and constant reminders that I was not the real child, But hunny Im a real person and ive grown and I like what ive become my sister on the other hand love her as I do is still jealous and is still unhappy and I feel for her but no amount of talking or help I offer is ever going to be good enough as she is stuck in her own little world, I wont stop trying though and one day she may realise what a friend she had in me so dont give up be strong and think strong and always have faith in you hunny WITH LOTS OF LOVE AND HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): i see me and my brother used to not get along so well he used to ditch me and we used to fight a lot but it just came to a point that we grew up we relised that the fighting was stupid.it's normal for siblings to fight from time to time but something you and her have to relise is that your sisters and nothing is ever going to change that.take my situation for instance there is a possibility that im not going to see my brother for at least 10 years its very possible that it could be much longer enjoy each other while you can because you never know what life will throw at you.(oh and btw i do know what you mean cept i did pop him one lol believe me it doesnt help things)good luck-michael
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