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writes: I don't entirely know how to ask this, or if it is at all possible. But is there any way i can make my man last longer in bed. Last night he lasted all of 5 seconds, i love him to death but i was wondering if there is anything that i can do to prolong it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): i have been married to my husband for six years and sometimes our sex life is not so great. He still only lasts about five minutes..... But he he uses alot of before and after play... Talk to him explian what your feeling and work out ways together to please both of you.
1. Have him start by touching you evrywhere feet, legs, hands, arms, shoulders, back I mean everywhere. Placing kisses as he goe.
This help get you worked up.
Try to get him to get you almost to climax before he enters you. This way you go together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007):
I can relate since I have the same problem. In fact... thats how I found this page! I really love my man and I've never given him grief about it... guys are incredibly sensitive about the matter. A mans performance in bed is everything to him!! And mentioning something like this without caution can give him incredible stage fright the next time you're doing the deed... enough to make him avoid the deed entirely.
Talking to him is important... since its his penis and all... but be gentle. You know, Premature ejaculation is actually a survival mechanism. In the wild it is actually a strength to be able to ejaculate faster. It makes sense since this would increase chances of reproduction. Maybe starting off the conversation with something like that will help him absorb the blow a bit easier.
I found a very useful article on the Men's Health Website. Its called 6 Ways to Prevent PE. If you can establish conversation with him, get him to look it up. Its great. Read it yourself as well so you can support him if and when he's ready to try.
Good luck girl...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2006): Premature ejaculation is very common, don't be too surprised or upset, heh. This was a problem for me when I first started having sex with my girlfriend. I was concerned, so we talked about it and while I still come pretty quickly the first time, Tray-c's second suggestion worked very well for us. My second time around I am less sensitive down there, and will very often outlast her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): I experienced the same problem with my partner. The only way to resolve it is to spk to him about it, I told my partner Id prefer more foreplay from him to warm me up and then when we reach the stage of intercourse and he is feeling about to explode he will pull out and play with me some more or he will stop or slow down for a moment to control it. It can be controlled but he will need some understanding and encouragement from you. Dont go all guns blazing like "mate yr took quick", just say "babe Id like it if we try to draw sex out a bit longer...Id like this - if yr feeling ready to come pull out and do this...". Hope this helps and you manage to sort things x
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reader, Tray-c +, writes (9 August 2006):
 Is foreplay involved in this 5 seconds?? If the problem is that he comes after 5 seconds I recommend two ways around it1- If you able to talk to him about, it you could suggest that he chokes the chicken maybe 5 minutes before yee start, this way he will still have all the energy and enthusiasm but with a prolonged performance 2- If you can't talk to him about it, after foreplay you could go down on him (***WARNING*** he may explode) after that you then subtly usher him down on you (he should be more than willing after your generous gift) when he has then finished he should be fairly recharged and should last alot longerHopefully I didn't interpret the question wrongly or else the above was probably a load of bollix to you, newho I hope I helped good luckLaterzzzz Tray-c xx
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 There's not much YOU can do. This is really up to him to work out, but here's the problem: first, he probably thinks you feel just ~great~ and he'd like nothing better than for you to continue to do whatever you're doing, and second, he may not know yet that you're getting nothing out of it.
Unfortunately, a lot of guys seem to believe that a woman's vagina is like an inside-out penis, with all the same sensations that men get, in that if being inside you feels orgasmic to him, then it must feel just as good to you.
Now, we both know that's not true, but does your boyfriend? You need to discuss this with him in a non-judgemental way. Maybe you can start by asking him if he'd like to try it long and slow for a change. Emphasise to him how much you'd like that.
Once you're talking, you can mention that it takes you a lot longer to get warmed up than it takes him. Make sure he knows that it isn't just you, that almost ALL women take longer to get started, and that 30 seconds (be generous!) doesn't even give you time to *think* about orgasm, much less to get there.
See if he'd been willing to try to hold off a bit longer, in the interests of mutual pleasure. Some guys pull out when they feel close, so they can get control again. Or try having sex a second time, after his first orgasm, when the urgency for him isn't so great, and he can take his time.
The point is, he won't know there's a problem, and he won't be able to even *try* to fix it, if you don't talk with him about it. As I always say to people: if you're intimate enough to be having sex, you should be intimate enough to talk about it. Right?
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 Ummm... wow. I'm not sexually active, but I have a lot of education in this department.
Is it that he just gets where he needs to be and stops, or...?
Only things I can think of, is if it's a "problem" there are medications for that. Or, think about maybe building it up. You know, walk around in his favorite skirt or something. Then, tease a little. Kiss a bit, and then finish putting up the dishes or something. Then, try it. Try having a talk with him.
If it's just he gets there incredibly fast... umm... try other methods? Consult a doctor? I'm going on a stretch here, maybe someone who's more experienced with this bizarre even can help. Hey, I tried.
(Only five seconds, LITERALLY???)
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