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female
age
26-29,
*reenMaryJane
writes:It feels like my boyfriend is taking me for granted and like he doesnt really care about me or the relationship.It has always been me all over from the start who has always taking the first step and engaged us to meet. It is still that way and Im trying to stop asking him all the time so he can ask me if we can hang out ... but its hard and he doesnt ask me. Only if I had compained about it, then he asks me. He says he loves me and cares for me and all thet, and sometimes he even proves it but only after alot of complaining frm my side. It feels like Im only complaining all the time and I don't want that, but at the same time I want the relationship to work for us, I want to be with him ... I love him.How do I get him to Acknowledge me more ? How do I stop the complaining and show how much I love him so he understands ?
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reader, Brandy205  +, writes (3 June 2012):
Is your boyfriend very shy? Shyness could be one of the reasons why you are always the one who has to make the first move. Alternatively, maybe he just doesn't want to be in a relationship any more but doesn't know how to express his feelings. I think you really need to sit him down and tell him that this situation cannot go on like this because it is making you upset and unhappy. If he still continues to behave this way then it might be a good idea to take a break from each other, but first, get your feelings out there in the open.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 I am really not sure what it is you love about him when he doesn't even bother making an effort with you. This relationship is all one sided and you will only become miserable if this keeps happening. You have complained in the past but it has not worked. The only thing you can do is stop contacting him and see if he takes any notice, if he doesn't then he really is not that bothered about you. You need to remain strong and for the next four weeks make a promise to yourself that you are not going to contact him unless he contacts you first and you are not going to ask him to meet up just to see if he actually cares enough to ask you. You need to remain strong within them four weeks or else you will end up in a relationship that you will be unhappy in.
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