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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am a girl who has fallen in love with her first cousin. Of course, falling in love with him was totally unintentional. It started out with short text messaging, and as we got to know each other, I found that though we had different personalities, our perspectives in life are quite similar. Because of this we grow fond of each other, meeting up with each other for dinner and movies, and unintentionally flirting with each other. Finally it came to a point when I confessed my feelings to him, and to my delight he told me he felt the same. However, as time passed he began to seem distant and withdrawn. Knowing him, if I ever asked him about this, he would merely answer as being busy with work. He always has this tendency to avoid such serious conversations, and I always comply. I am really saddened with the way things are right now. Before I used to know every bit of his day, but I now I never know what's going on with him. And although I see him from time to time, it's always short. I miss being in a conversation with him, I miss having dinner and movies with him, I miss his jokes...and I miss him terribly. I am leaning towards a decision to just walk away and pretend nothing happened, but I am also very tempted to talk to him. It wouldn't matter whether he would accept me or not, what I am after is to tell him how I feel. Some sort of a closure. I've sought advice from friends, and they told me to just keep quiet and move on since there is really nothing to talk about. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): I agree with the previous post. Writing what you would say on paper really helps put complete closure on things, I would even mail it so he can read it. You are first cousins and it makes the situation that much harder. I wish you all the best!
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