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writes:Hey. So my boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. Last year, I found some posts he made on craigslist looking for some "fun". Obviously, I was extremely upset and confronted him. He apologized and cried and all that good stuff. I'm still with him, but it's really hard for me to forgive him. I still wanna be with him, so I was wondering how can I get closer to forgiving him? He answers my questions about it when I ask him and he understands that I don't forgive him yet. He doesn't even forgive himself. But I want to forgive him. Reply to this Question
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reader, avated +, writes (12 February 2011):
I think you should forgive him since he has been honest about it, and hasnt hid it from you. To forgive him is to forget think of all the good times you have and what a great guy he is. Dont push it too far you might lose him and if your still him obviously you dont want to lose him. Just when it pops in your head think of a great time you guys had together. hope it works out
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): He needs to go back and logically analyze the things he did and why he did them and what he learned. He needs to make sense out of the things he did and understand how he can apply his lessons to your relationship's future. Once that happens, hopefully his emotions will settle down and a balance will strike with his logic and emotion towards those situations. Youre a good person for sticking with him thru this. Hope all works out. My best your way.
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reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 you need to give yourself and the relationship some time to think this all over. obviously he is having some issues staying commited, so you need to talk to him seriously and find out why he did it, and if there is anything that can be done to prevent it from happening again. the next time you may not catch it in time, and you relationship can be ruined. you need to take a serious look at your relationship and figure out if it is worth saving, because if you think it is, you need to take some action. he is obviously hiding something from you, and he doesnt feel he can talk to you about it. you may need a mediator or counceller to help you out, maybe to help your boyfriend actually realize what he is feeling and why he is doing this, and then to help both of you communicate things better. only you can decide what you need to do, we can only give you suggestions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): Unfortunately that guys me and if I know me it's gonna happen again. He will try to suppress it he will fight it until one day while you're not around it'll happen. My opinion is to forgive him but know it might happen again maybe tomorrow maybe years from now when your married.
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