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writes:i have a date next friday night, we're going to the pub and i don't know how i should dress for it? I don't want to look too over-dressed, but i don't want to look like i haven't made the effort either! I was thinking of skinny jeans and a simple top, very simple in fact. It doesn't look like a slobbish outfit, it casual and looks nice without being to thought out and it fits with being in a pub... do you think this is okay? I mean what would a girl wear to go to the pub with a guy on a date, i don't want him thinking i haven't made an effort....Also, i don't know whether to wear less makeup? My friends said because it's the evening and since i'll be dressed casually, i can get away with wearing my usual evening makeup and that it's only in the day it would make sense to tone it down and be more subtle..... is she right?sorry it's my first date and i needed advice as much as i can get! Reply to this Question
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (19 November 2012):
 Things guys like:
Long dark eyelashes, soft but not sticky looking lips, and really even and silky looking skin.
So, use a nice semi matte mineral foundation, a really good concealer, and some nice HD powder to set it and make your skin look very soft and smooth.
Use tinted lip balm, not gloss or anything obvious. You just want your mouth to look kissable and approachable. Lots of men hate sticky gloss.
Fake eyelashes, black mascara. Skip dark eyeshadow, your want your face to look as natural as possible. Just really vamp up those lashes.
It'll sock 'im dead, trust.
As for your clothes, do skinny jeans, a soft feminine looking sweater or slightly baggy tunic length shirt and some knee high boots. You want to look well put together, not too dressy, but really femme and sexy at the same time.
Don't forget to wear a pair of cute earrings that aren't too big, and paint your nails. Guys don't always know that they notice little details like that, but they do, and looking polished is important for first impressions.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 November 2012):
 Dress more casually for sure. Surely you must have a set of plain jeans and a t shirt that you know makes you look amazing. Skip heels.
For hair if it's long wear it down and in those kind of "supermodel waves."
Makeup, wear it a bit darker than during the day since it will be dark in the pub, but stay away from smokey anything, bright blush, and do not overdo any bronzer (no one likes orange people). Just go with darker natural makeup, peachy pink blush, and peachy pink lipgloss. Don't use liquid eyeliner, no cat eyes, but black eyeliner should be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012): *Correction - did* look like they were being themselves
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012): Yeah clothes sound good. LESS makeup OP. The nude look is my preference. What's the point in going on a date if you're going to hide your face behind a mask of paint. Unless of course your style is a certain way, goth, scenester, hipster then you just go your regular makeup. Or unless this guy is like something out of Jersey Shore, if he is then google snookie for her style.
Just dress how you'd like him to see you. If you want to be a sex object, plenty of cleavage. If not, then not so much.
OP the most beautiful women I've dated that made the longest impressions on me after a first date were women who looked "effortless". They did themselves up in such a way that they looked like they were meeting a friend but tiny bit more effort to look attractive. Obviously if you look closely you'd see they put in quite a bit of effort but they looked very natural. What I liked about that is they didn't look like they were being themselves and that they were confident and happy with who they are that they didn't need to hide behind lots of make-up or have a tonne of cleavage in my face.
Most importantly though OP, comfort and confidence. Forget what anyone else thinks, go for maximum comfort and whatever will give you the maximum confidence. It's not really about how you look but more how you are, a girl wearing a bin bag who is comfortable and confident is far more enticing than a made up woman who looks uncomfortable and insecure. And I'm not talking about nervousness, that's normal and goes away really quickly with the above.
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