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writes:Hi I was with a lad one night and I met up with him a while after. Im 18 and he is like 9 years older than me, we havent met up since, but we still text and he does ask me to meet up with him again, but I keep saying no. I do like him but am I mad for meeting up with him and should I stop texting him and that?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 no never meet a man regardless of his age who only wants sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2012): Hey tnx everyone for d comments I dnt think I can.meet him again cos he txt me d other day sayin he wants sex he didnt actually ask me for it but it was obvious dat he wanted me to say yea nd I dnt want to be used for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): I am 27 and I have to tell you that none of the men that I know date 18 years olds. Most of the good men or the attractive men are already taken, engaged or married. The ones in the dating pool that are hooking up with girls your age are:
1. just looking to get with younger chicks for sex.
2. they are creeps, or dysfunctional and women that are older know to stay away from them. Since they can't get women their age because they know better, they pursue younger chicks because they're more naive and inexperienced and don't know what's coming at them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): age doesnt affect anything unless its something like 20 years older i think, my dad is 9 years older than my mum and they met when she was 16 and theyre extremely happy, so i would say just go with your instincts :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): I really think it depends on what you want, Just meet him again and take your time to know him. You should not think much about it and talk like with whatever other person. I dont think that he is interested in you for a relation or so at least not at first sigh when the guy is so much older than you. My boyfriend is 9 years older than me and we have 2 years relationship and it all just started because we had sex once it was just that sex but we fell in love we were very good friends for 6 months more or less . I suggest you to take time to know him, you decide later if you really want to be something more than friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2012): There's nothing to say you should or shouldn't really. His age doesn't have much to do with this except this will probably only ever be a casual sex situation. Chances of a long term relationship with a guy that much older than you that you don't already know are very, very low.
I've been in your and his situation plenty of times, I'm the same age difference as you two with my girlfriend now but we knew each other as friends for about 2 years before we started dating.
The times I've ended up dating girls your age I'd only really met, it was only useful for sex. We were just too different, at very different stages in our lives and really didn't know each other well enough to get over the very obvious difficulties that age gaps bring about. Difficulties such as meeting each others friends, parents, having almost nothing in common, different memories from childhood. Different lifestyles, the weirdness that comes from being his age trying to hang around you and your friends or you trying to hang out with his friends and having very little in common with them. No offence OP but dating girls your age as a late 20's man is usually a fling type deal.
That said if you like him and want to have some fun then there is nothing mad about having that kind of fun with him. Why not get to know him a bit and see what his story is.
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