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writes:My boyfriend dumped me on saturday for another girl and I'm so hurt as we moved in together 6 months ago and I was starting to think about getting married. My mom passed away 4 months ago and my 13 yo brother was put in a group home. We were going to get custody of him but now I won't be able to as I won't be able to financially provide for him without his income so I'm going to have to tell him that he is going to have to tell him that he has to stay in the group home when I see him tomorrow even though I promised him I'd get him out.My life has fallen apart, I've lost my boyfriend and now I'm not going to get my brother. I hate him yet I'd take him back tomorrow if he asked me to
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (18 May 2010):
 Oh boy! This is very hard and distressing for you. On top of your boyfriend's atrocious behavior, you are still (as is your brother) grieving the loss of your Mother...Let me ask: did you have any inkling whatsoever that things were not going well between you and your boyfriend in the last few months? I can't imagine what sort of commitment he had to you (which is at least IMPLIED when you decide to live together) to then somehow meet another woman and ditch you for her. You may well feel you'd take him back tomorrow if he asked you to, BUT don't do it!!He would have to go to the ends of the earth to demonstrate to you that he would be willing to REALLY commit and not get up to such a nasty antic (suddenly picking up another woman) ever again! How long had you been with him before moving in, by the way?And now you must break the news to your brother that he won't be able to live with you after all. He will be very disappointed and upset, I'm sure, but all you can do is to bear with him, and assure him you are going to be there for him and will do whatever you can for his well-being; you aren't going anyway. Can you first talk to the "house mother" or supervisor of the group home?
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reader, Christine82  +, writes (18 May 2010):
Oh Hun how sad. I am so sorry! You have had a very tough time over the last few months and now this!With regards coping without your bf it is always very difficult at the beginning but it gets easier as time goes on and one day when you are happy you will look back at this time and see just how much you've been through and how much of al strong person you accttually are!Just take one day at a time. Allow yourself time to grieve for your mom brother and partner but also allow time for you! You are the only one who you can totally rely on in this life so you have to take time to care for yourself!I really do wish you all the very best
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