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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I am a male teen and over the past few months, me and one of my male friends have been fooling around with one another. My friend just as I, has always enjoyed fooling around as weve done it over 6 times, and hes even iniated a couple times. However, recently hes told me that while he enjoys fooling around with me, he feels guilty about it. He says basically that a part of him wants to because he likes it, and another part doesnt because he feels guilty. As a result he has avoided hanging out with me alone to avoid us fooling around and him feeling guilty. I would like to continue fooling around with my friend, but how do I convince him to continue and not feel guilty as despite the guilt, he clearly enjoys it also. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): I think it's really important to give him time, allow him time to work out who he is. Society often tells us things are wrong, or things should make us feel guilty.
It takes time and confidence to realise as long as you are happy and no one is getting hurt then do what you want.
I think you need to provide your friend with certain assurances; that no one else will find out, you will take things only as far as he wants etc.
Help him to feel comfortable with you and try to show him that what you both are doing is ok!
Most importantly, just be there for him as a friend, sexuality can be confusing, let him know he can talk to you about things without it always having to turn into 'fooling around'
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