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writes:For some reason my wife feels uncomfortable about me going down on her. We've done it before (only for a few minutes each time) and I know she loves it. I'd like to spend more time on her but she tries to avoid it. Giving her pleasure is a big turn on for me. She doesn't mind going down on me and even lets me finish in her mouth. I'd like to reciprocate what she does for me. Perhaps she feels that she won't get off by my doing down on her and that might hurt my feelings (as in I'm no good enough). I absolutely adore her and nothing would be better than to give her what she gives me. How do I convince her to let me do it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2015): maybe she's just not confident you know, she'll 100 percent get off with that. thats the easiest way to make a woman get off.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 September 2015):
 Print a copy of this submittal.... show it to her... and let that be the beginning of a conversation which should clarify the matter for the two of you.....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2015): Well, there’s an easy way to find out. Ask her. Everything everyone is going to write here is pure speculation - she is the only one who knows the answer.
Your question is telling us something about your marriage. You want to perform the most intimate act possible with your wife, but you and your wife are not intimate. You are afraid of asking her why she does not want you to do it and she is holding back from telling you why she doesn’t want it. That would be a very intimate discussion. You are not having it. You are not being intimate with your wife.
Please be brave and take the first step. If you adore her as much as you say, you will ask her. Tell how you feel about it and tell her it means a lot to you to know, and don’t be afraid of the answer. If you are open with her, she may be open with you. If you have a good marriage you will love and support each other, no matter what the answer turns out to be.
Find books on how to grow relationships – see the recent post here for some very good ideas. I sincerely hope that you will take what you learn from asking your question and work hard to improve the relationship between you and your wife. If you adore your wife as you say, you will take every step to improve your marriage. It can only make it better. Good luck.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/know-of-any-books-on-relationship-building.html
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