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*elsey0316
writes:So im a really shy person. I party and chill with my older brothers friends, ive known them for 4 years and they lovee me, but i just cant seem to stop being shy around them, and it holds me back from becoming close friends with them, how can i come out of my shell and become more outgoing? Please help!
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (18 August 2010):
Well you need to think first why are you shy? and work on that! i was shy too growing up but i out grew it w/ age and mine was because i always thought others wer'e better then me had more then me so it was hard to open up. i think being shy comes from w/ in ourselve's. and it also has alot to do w/ you are hanging out with sometimes you are just not comfortable w/ certain people! and there are others that you can just bla, bla, bla with all day long! so it can be a number of things but just know who you are and we are all human and not perfect so just be you.
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reader, BeSimplyTrue +, writes (18 August 2010):
 I have two suggestions for you on how to overcome shyness and self-consciousness (which I would say is often the real problem shy people are experiencing--they feel self conscious). No wait, actually 3!1) Fake it till you make it. This is what I do. I pretend I am confident and at ease in a situation and it really helps. Kinda like how smiling even when you're not happy makes you feel happy (try it! That also helps). If you're smiling and acting like your confident, it goes a long way to making you feel happy and confident. You're not being fake or a liar, you're just putting your best foot forward and making the most out of your shy personality. It's fine.2) Focus on the people you're with instead of your interior monologue. Really cultivate your interest in the people you're hanging out with; ask them questions ("How are you?" or "What's up?" is a good start) instead of hanging back and watching everyone else interact. If you're carrying on a conversation with someone--even if they're doing most of the talking--you can't be so trapped in your shell, because you're busy interacting!3) Don't worry that you'll do or say something embarrassing; assume that embarrassing things inevitably happen from time to time and don't stress about it. Instead, focus on recovering from an embarrassing situation. Everyone likes it when someone can make a joke about herself. I met the guy I'm in love with when I went to a Fourth of July party and at the party I walked straight into a screen door. Immediately I laughed and said, "Whoa, where did that come from?" or something, and the people who observed it all laughed with me. If I'd started crying or looking terrified instead, it would've been an extremely awkward situation, but because I laughed, they could only laugh WITH me instead of AT me.Good luck and I hope my tips help you! They have really worked for me (though I still feel shy from time to time) and I think they could work for you if you give them a chance.
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