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writes:I have a gf of 10 months who i meet daily because she wants me to. If i dont then she starts those "i know u gettin bored of me" lines. The thing is its just not possible meetin every day in her house for more than 6 hours. its almost a live in relationship which i really dont want. No matter wat i have to be in her house by evenin. I tried not going one or 2 days but she started cryin. I m really gettin bored goin daily. how do change this without her getting crazy. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): I think its very controlling of her to make you see her every day.it isnt right and isnt fair on you.you should have space to do your own thing sometimes,see friends,have hobbies etc. It would drive me mad too if someone demanded to see me everyday.you need to tell her that you need space sometimes and if she wont change you should end the relationship.good luck and let us know how it goes.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (23 September 2010):
 I think you are just leading her on, pretending you want to be in a relationship with her, when in fact you don't. Sooner or later you're gonna have to come clean and cut the tie. She's fallen for you, and you do not feel the same way about her. This can go no where but down. When two people love each other they BOTH want to be together. Clearly you don't love her and to continue pretending that you do, is just a lie.
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (23 September 2010):
 I think your GF is very insecure. I can totally understand why she's driving you crazy though.
Is she reasonable though? Does she want to listen to what you have to say?
If so, I would sit her down and tell her that if she keeps going the way she is, it will put a strain on your relationship and it might not work out. You need to tell her that you need your own time in order for the relationship to work in the long run. Does she have friends, hobbies, study etc to keep her busy?
The funny thing is, she is doing this to make sure you don't leave her, but little does she know that these actions of hers might be the reason you leave.
Maybe in the end, the fact of the matter is that you're no compatible. If she expects to see you everyday and you don't think it's necessary, that's an incompatibility that will drive you apart.
All I can say if she's like this now and refuses to change, it won't be good in the long run.
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