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writes:How do I break free from this abusive relationship I have with my boyfriend? When I am not with him, I feel strong and am ready to end it, but as soon as I see him, he changes my mind, he starts being sooo nice and says sorry etc and makes me have faith in him that he CAN be a nice person. But then as soon as he's "got me back" he reverts back to all the abuse and then I feel like such an idiot. This cycle continues on and on. I dont know how to escape. Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 October 2009):
Well done for realizing it has to end. Lots of women are like you, but remain in denial or are very scared and pretend the man will get better. He won't. This guy has lied and lied and has been nothing but abusive to you. He's controlling, and when you try to end it, he makes a load of promises he can't keep. If you have a strong female friend you can rely on, take her with you when you dump him, and tell her that you might fall for his rubbish, so if he starts to say sorry and such, she can get you out before your mind changes again. Also, it will put him on the spot a little more. Do it in a public place, with a friend by your side, and make sure it's very short and sharp. The, delete his number, don't take calls, letters, don't meet with him and remind that good friend to keep her eye on you. Good luck to you.
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reader, Tessi +, writes (28 October 2009):
 hi, you need to try and be strong enough to stay away from from him...you may think you love him but maybe its just the idea of what he promises you love..i was married to a man the same as you describe for nearly 5 yrs..he nearly distroyed me... i,ve been away for just over a year now and am only just starting to realise what an impact on me he had...i.m slowly moving on with my life.. whatever you do stop this circle..he knows exactly what he,s doing to you and he won,t ever change..move on hun your worth so much more...hope this helps..
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