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writes:I met this guy and we've hung out about four times. We've always hung out in groups but we tended to stick with each other, not in like "we're together" sort of way, but more like "i feel comfortable around you and i know you the most". i want to hang out again, and he has made it apparent he does too, but i dont know how to go about it without it seeming threatening, you know? i want to maybe go to a show with him or something but i dont want to go alone.. but i dont know his friends.. i could ask the girls i know if they wanted to go.. and then invite him after? hm. i might meet his friends this weekend because i think some sort of party is going on. but until the weekend, i dont want to ignore him, you know? i hope i see him around so this question becomes irrelevant. i make everything with guys so awkward. Reply to this Question
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 I would just text him asking how he's doing and if he wants to come and see a show with you and some of your girlfriends? If he sounds not to thrilled to be hanging out with just a gang of girls and being the only guy, joke with him, saying that for one night he can feel like a player and have eight or so girls on his arm at once.. but make sure to add a big LOL at the end so he knows you're only joking. If not, and you bump into him, invite him along with some of your friends and just say that you had an extra ticket and he doesn't seem to mind hanging out with you so you thought you'd ask. If you invite him to a group outing in a casual way, he shouldn't get the wrong idea.. but we can't predict the future! If he does "like" you in that way, any invitation to hang out, smile or jokey text, is going to be some form of sign telling him you like him too, because that's what he wants to believe. If he makes a move, you'll just have to set him straight. Awkward I know, but at least he'll know in the future, that you actually do just want to hang out.
Good luck!
xxx
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