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How common is it for girls to experiment with other girls? I'm not attracted to them but I like sex with them.

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Question - (20 August 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 December 2010)
A female Canada age 36-40, anonymous writes:

How common is it for girls to experiment with other girls?? i am not attracted to other girls but like sex with them . am i alone in this?? my first sexual experiences were with girls when i was young(about 9 or 10) me and my best friend would always give each other back rubs and always end up going down on each other. even at that age orgasm happened easily and we had *SEX* at least 4 to 5 times a week. during this time i was also experimenting with my two female cousins, i can't really remember when it started i think it was earlier then me and my BF experiments.we would always have 3somes together, even though they were sisters it stopped with my BF in grade 7 but me and my cousins continued with the 3 of us until grade 8, then me and my year apart cousin would have sleepovers but would have sex all night.we stopped from grade 9 til we were 18 or so.and havent in about 5 yrs but even tho im married with kids i still want to have sex with her!! has anyone else ever slept with a female cousin and had it continue like this?? im not bi, love men just love the orgasms from women. tell me your stories? please am i alone in this?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010):

i did this too! me and my sister would make out and stuff in the closets all the time. this stopped when i was like 5 though. and then my littler sister and i also did this more openly. we humped each other a lot with no clothes on. I liked it so much. i maturbate a lot but now i feel like i wanna do this more with girls than boys. i think dykes are gross. and i only like girls for the sex. penis's seem gross but i would never be attracked to a women, only the sex. But for men i love them. I am only 15 and this is happening to me too! your not the only one!

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A male reader, My friend Lebanon +, writes (20 August 2008):

1st of all i totally agree with PsyCookie!

and also no offense but im so surprised of your messed up story! you had sex at 9? and u've been having threesomes before 14??? thats definately not normal and not common! maybe thats y your emotional sexual feelings are messed up! i dunno, you're over 26yrs old, married with kids, im sure you are mature enough to know that your story is not at all normal and it DEFINATELY affected you. please seak some help. As PsyCookie said, you need someone to treat the roots of your problem.

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A female reader, PsyCookie United States +, writes (20 August 2008):

PsyCookie agony auntI'm sorry to say this, but this is a mess.

I would say that you need to get some psychological help because your case is very hard to try to solve.

For one, you claim you feel absolutely no sexual attraction to females and you classify yourself as straight YET you enjoy having sex with women. Sorry, but that is hard to come by. I thought that when a person craves sexual acts with their same sex, it meant the person is gay. As simple as that. You may either be gay or bisexual.

Now, what I think happens here is that you don't feel the MENTAL and EMOTIONAL connection you get with men with the women. You only see them as sex objects that will give you amazing pleasure. But nothing more than that.

Also, I think your early sexual encounters put a heavy part on your thinking now. I'm sorry, but I don't know of many 9 year old kids who have been having sex, and not that many who had it as much as you. Yes, some people do experiment with their cousins, but they are very few (because they recognize the incest thing) and they start MUCH later, about their early teens. SO many sexual encounters at SUCH early age DOES affect the person in one way or another.

So what you should try to do is go to a therapist so they can solve your problem. This requires a more proffessional help since it needs to go VERY deep into the roots of your problem and the only person who can do this and be able to know how to get a solution is a certified psychologist.

You need to this for your children, at least. You're a married woman, and thoughts like this may endanger your marriage (if you act on them, of course) and your role as a mother. So if you don't want to mess up either, try to go to a professional for help.

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