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writes:Can u tell me what love means to u I'm so confused I don't really know. I know I don't love the guy that I'm with now and I'm a bit dissapointed cuz I thought I loved him I always wanted to be with him I felt something everytime we kissed it just felt so right but now I don't feel the same I'm confused what isnlove? What if in the future I find some one that i love and I end up marrying him and during our marriage I fall out of love with him, I'm scares that this will happen. What does love mean to u and how do u know it will last forever? Thank you sooooooo much for your help! Reply to this Question
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reader, SISTA LV  +, writes (3 August 2010):
Hi there, the thing about life,love and everything else is that "IS WHAT U MAKE IT". Just like we dont know if jesus is really there but we believe in him nevertheless, love is like that also, you have no guarantee that it will last but you can make it work. If it ends will the one u r with now then take it as a learning curve an do things differently the next time, just dont give up.
Love to me means that tingling feeling in ones heart when u see a msg or a telephone call. Love is when u can stand by a person even after everything that u've been through, but mostly love is loving urself and appreciating who u are, so that in turn other people will learn to love u. cheers
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reader, neptune +, writes (3 August 2010):
 To me love is the most delicate and beautiful thing ever. When your in love theres no other girl or guy out there for you because all you see is the person your in love with.Love is not selfish so when your in love the other person is the most important thing to you, and love is when you care about the other person more than you do yourself.Love is when you feel so comfortable with the person that youe with that you wish you could be in their arms forever and if your really meant to be with that person you should have the same feeling 20 years of being together..it should never change. but if it does then you guys werent meant to be.but dont get discoutaged because the guys your meant to be with is out there..oh and there is no way to know for sure whether or not your going to be together with a person your just going to have to live day by day and time will tell..
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reader, johannabanana +, writes (3 August 2010):
 There is a 53% divorce rate here in America, so if there is one thing I have learned it's that forever doesn't mean forever to a lot of people.
Being in love is just like having a best friend... You like them romantically, but they are always there to support you. Like a best friend they pick you when you feel down and they simply stick around through the bad and good. It's important to ask yourself would I be friends with the person I'm dating? If you couldn't see yourself as a friend, then clearly being more than that isn't right either. Being in love is an emotional connection that builds over time. People learn to love; if they didn't love at first sight would exist. Clearly it doesn't though.
When you enjoy being with a person and they are all you think about and they make you smile, then that is all that's important.
Annother important thing to have in a relationship is space. Even if you love someone sometimes you just have to get out of the house and go do something so you can have a little quite time for your own mind. That is why clingy relationships never last. I have two theories about why marriages fail; #1 The two people don't sit down and simply communicate the way they are feeling (annoyances, sadness, smothered, alone) The partners just don't simply state how they feel.
#2 Cheating... A partner in the relationship starts to feel unapreciated or like something is missing and therefor look for it elsewhere. One a partner in the relationship has cheated all trust is broken and without trust everything starts to fail.
To have something last forever simply stay in a relationship for at least three/ four years and ask yourself if you could be happy with only this person every day until you die. It really is as simple as that.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 Well I may be falling into the "no longer cool" generation now, and feel free to say so, but so, soooo many high school romances don't last. Why? Well you're still growing up, you're still trying to figure out who you are... and so is your partner... with such drastic changes happening to both parties that's obviously going to affect any relationships during this time.
I could add in stuff about how you aren't mature, don't have a realistic perspective etc.. but when I was your age I totally thought I was deeply in love and convinced I would marry my high-school sweetheart... Looking at my ex on facebook... I'm awfully glad I didn't :P (shhh...!)
Movies and romantic comedy's glorify relationships so much that teenagers think its all sunshine, rainbows and happily ever after... (well I did atleast)... when in reality this just isn't the case. There's so many interesting and exiting people out there, which when you leave school you'll realize. Not only that but by that time you'll have figured out who you are, what you want and mature enough to be in a stable "warts and all" relationship. So do yourself a favor and try to just enjoy your high school flings, where you don't have to and probably shouldn't think too far ahead...
Best of luck :)
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