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Advice please on how to feel more open in my relationship
Q. I'm really not sure what to think about my relationship with my boyfriend of 5 months. I don't know him well and its difficult to get him to open up. We enjoy our time together and in touch most days, but things always seem to crop up and I dont see ...
A. 20 August 2010: Sometimes you just need to rock the boat a little. Playing life on the safe side makes living life dull and not a lot of fun and your guy can since that. You need to find constructive and unique things for you both to do together. When people feel ... (read in full...)
I want to be his friend how do I get over us?
Q. i met this guy around my working area, we started knowing each other as friends, i am 21 years old and he is 28. he works at bank and i work as a waitress. we had fun time being friends, but one day i stayed over at his house because i couldn't stay ...
A. 20 August 2010: You weren't over him. You should just simply smile at him when you see him and ask how the ladies are treating him. You need to act buddy buddy instead of hoping for a relationship he doesn't want to have with you. Stop telling yourself you will get ... (read in full...)
Is this love haunted?
Q. I have a bf that refuses to let go of a female who once was the reason we had a break up about. He cheated on me and left me for her and then left her and came back to me, he made a mistake and regrets it....now 5 years later she is still in the ...
A. 20 August 2010: He is using this girl as a clutch. He wants to always feel loved and he knows if you leave he still won't be alone. Relationships are about putting the other person above anything or anyone else. Even before your self. This man does not deserve you ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend lying about true feelings!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. He still calls me and when I see him he acts like a high school kid and has to be near me. He told me the reason was that he broke up with me is that he didn't develope the feelings he thought he ...
A. 20 August 2010: just be his friend and be there for him when he needs you. Boyfriends come and go but friends can be forever. If things are meant to be between the two of you then they will eventually develop naturally.... (read in full...)
Is he afraid of a relationship?
Q. I been seeing this guy friend of mine for 3months and we have sex a lot but hes been a jerk lately towards me because i said i like him and he said hes not interested in a relationship right now I don't get it. Would you have sex with someone you ...
A. 20 August 2010: Guys can have detached sex. Meaning they don't have to like you even a little to have sex with you. All he wants is a booty call. He is using you for sex and doesn't even care about you if your satisfied with just sex then that works, but know that ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to wait and hope?
Q. alright well as people who have read my other questions know I messed up with this girl I care about more than anything. well as everyone has said I have stopped talking to her and it took the help of some good friends to do it. recently I read a ...
A. 13 August 2010: No problem and one thing is for sure you deserve a girl that will be crazy about you just as much, and she is out there somewhere. There are more women than men in the world so think of that when love seems hopeless :).... As for keeping the right ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to wait and hope?
Q. alright well as people who have read my other questions know I messed up with this girl I care about more than anything. well as everyone has said I have stopped talking to her and it took the help of some good friends to do it. recently I read a ...
A. 8 August 2010: If a girl wants you it is clear. If you haven't talked to her in two weeks and she hasn't come after you then she simply doesn't care. Girls like attention and being adored, even if it is someone whom they do not like. It is also entirely possibly ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to wait and hope?
Q. alright well as people who have read my other questions know I messed up with this girl I care about more than anything. well as everyone has said I have stopped talking to her and it took the help of some good friends to do it. recently I read a ...
A. 5 August 2010: Question: What gives these people the impression that you are a stalker?... (read in full...)
Falling for my best friend's boyfriend.
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about three mi=onths now, at first it was amazing, beautiful, perfect. My boyfriend has a best friend who might as well be his boyfriend. His best friend is unusual, mysterious, and he was falling ...
A. 3 August 2010: It's clear that you are unhappy in your relationship. Tell your boyfriend that things just don't feel the same between the two of you anymore and you think it would be a good idea if two just stayed friends and saw other people. End it. The longer ... (read in full...)
Male friend's activities are making me jealous!
Q. a male friend of mine just moved out before he left i was dreaming of him with someone else then walking with someone else and in my dream hes always leaving when he was here he was very disrespectful like in sending videos of him jacking off to ...
A. 3 August 2010: Get out, go to a club.... Anything to distract you. Find activities that will preoccupy your time. The less time you have to think is less time you have to be upset and eventually you will just let it go. Try a night out with your best gal pals and ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him about my hopes for future plans but I'm sort of afraid to do so
Q. Hi guys, i really thank alot if u would mind to read my question below n send me an idea. Im 24y.o n my bf is 12years older than me. I've had LDR with him for 1,5years. I love him so much. I'll finish my study this year n i hope i'll get a good job...
A. 3 August 2010: You have to take the leaps for anything worth while, bur be careful doing so men freak out when it comes to commitment, you just have to go about it the right way.... Ex. Just say so lets talk about you and me, where do you think this going. Where ... (read in full...)
Should I kiss my girlfriend?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been out for a just over a month now and my friends keep saying i should kiss her. one day me and a few of my friends and her and a few of her friends went to the cinema, and after she got off the train on the way home two ...
A. 3 August 2010: Try taking it slow, but hinting at it. This can be accomplished by simply kissing her on the cheek each time you see her. Then on the 3rd time kiss her still on her cheek but just off her mouth on the edge. That way you're close to her lips, but you ... (read in full...)
Was he just using me for sex while travelling?
Q. Ok, so about 3 weeks ago, I met a guy through a friend of a friend. He's Polish, grew up in France, and is going to music school in Amsterdam. We hit if off at the very beginning, and hung out a few times. He did many sweet things to make me ...
A. 3 August 2010: It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't care or that he was using you for sex. However when sex is evolved a long distance relationship is less likely to survive because facing the facts there are a lot of tempting people to be around all the time. ... (read in full...)
How can you know if love will last?
Q. Can u tell me what love means to u I'm so confused I don't really know. I know I don't love the guy that I'm with now and I'm a bit dissapointed cuz I thought I loved him I always wanted to be with him I felt something everytime we kissed it just ...
A. 3 August 2010: There is a 53% divorce rate here in America, so if there is one thing I have learned it's that forever doesn't mean forever to a lot of people.
Being in love is just like having a best friend... You like them romantically, but they are always t... (read in full...)
Having trouble deciding whether to settle down with him.
Q. I'm a teenager and I normally don't take my relationships to seriously. The last relationship I was in lasted for about two and a half months. Unfortunatly I got really attatched to him!!! On the fourth of July he told me that his parents were ...
A. 3 August 2010: Just stay friends with him and have fun dating and seeing other people. Just let things take their natural course don't stop yourself from falling in love with someone else. because that is just apart of growing up. And he will probably fall for a ... (read in full...)
Asked out by three guys and they're all mates!
Q. I've know this one guy ben for about half a year and we've become really good friends and i found out he fancies me but is moving to london in 2 months but wants to go out with me, and i don't know if i want a long distance relationship and i'm ...
A. 24 July 2010: Not really, if you don't return the feelings to your friend then who can blame you? Just be with who makes you happy and your friend will get over being upset. Would it still be long distance with tom though? You may not want to make that ... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend said eeeew referring to me in a bikini. Do I confront him?
Q. Well, me and my best fried were swimming and having a wonderful time, when my boyfriend texts me I get her phone, because mine was practically dead, and when I get her phone she gets a text message from her boyfriend and he is talking about me, I go ...
A. 24 July 2010: He may not have been even talking about that... He could have meant that in some kind of ewwww you guys are so bi curious for dancing around together in your skimpy bikinis.... Maybe he just meant it some other way?...Maybe it was some immature guy ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I need space nicely, and also that I'm not ready for sex?
Q. I'am dating a guy and we spend a lot of time together, I was wondering how can I tell him I need some space nicely.H also wants to have sex with me and I'm not ready, how can I tell him ncely im not ready yet....
A. 24 July 2010: You could also make plans with your Gal pals and tell him you need a little room for girl time.... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I need space nicely, and also that I'm not ready for sex?
Q. I'am dating a guy and we spend a lot of time together, I was wondering how can I tell him I need some space nicely.H also wants to have sex with me and I'm not ready, how can I tell him ncely im not ready yet....
A. 24 July 2010: Just sit down with him and say I know you want to have sex, but the thing is I feel that I'm not ready and I need you to respect my wishes on that and not pressure me. Also for the space part hmm... first look into excuses are you in college or ... (read in full...)
Should I send him a friend request on facebook?
Q. I used to like this guy who i met when i went for a night out on my birthday two years ago. He was the friend of one of my relatives friends ( my relative didnt know him very well ) and there was a big group of us that were out. I met up with him ...
A. 23 July 2010: Send him a request and a message. Something short and sweet. Ex: I use to see you around awhile ago (give a couple examples) and I happened to know your name so I thought I'd say hi. You see like a really cool person. ... (read in full...)
I don't want her to think I'm over her so how do I let her know?
Q. well, let me tell you a story. it will be short. so, basically, she broke up with me, she said she still loved me, i made countless mistakes, now she hates me. she didn't want to talk to me until today, accusing me of something i didn't do. i went ...
A. 23 July 2010: You need to just give her time or she isn't going to take the news well. Give her space be her friend. Let tie pass and heal things between you. Always be there for her and show her you can be depended on. What is meant to be will be.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get this wet?
Q. i get really wet and i wont even be in a sexual situation!!! (i mean wet to the point it drips down my leg) is this normal?...
A. 23 July 2010: This may be something to check out.... I've never had it "drip" and I have gotten really wet from getting a little frisky. You should talk to your doctor and make sure it is nothing abnormal. ... (read in full...)
Am I doing my new husband wrong?
Q. I recently got married a week ago and we never had sex. I married my college sweet heart u could say and i do love him dearly. whenever were together were always having fun, but when it comes to sex we just pull apart. note that im a virgin a...
A. 23 July 2010: If you get lube, everything should go a lot smoother. If you continue to have a problem don't just trow in the towel on the whole marriage! Go see a sex doctor.... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever felt excited, depressed, exhilarated lustful and guilty all at the same time?
Q. Ok I'm in a bit of a twisted wicked little game here, and I'm completely to blame so I will accept any abuse. I just need to get this off my chest because it's driving me insane! i'm 20 by the way, you do the maths! Ok here it goes... I have a ...
A. 23 July 2010: You're young!!! Quite worring about some old guy that found you his hot actoin... clearly your over it. You need to explore, have fun, try new things. Being lustful and tempted is natural. It is also one of my future dreams to learn to fly as well. ... (read in full...)
My ex is trying to take my daughter!
Q. So I have an ex that was emotionally abusive and still is to this day. It's been since July of 2008 that we have broken up and have a 3 yr old daughter. After we broke up he turned into a rage freak, threatened me, harassed me, etc. I had to get dcf ...
A. 23 July 2010: Is it possible to have a quick wedding with your fiance instead of waiting? To be married you really just need to go to the courthouse and have your name changed. The wedding and all that you can just do later. Your fiance could adopt your daughter ... (read in full...)
I have to leave the love of my life so that he doesn't turn out to be the person I resent the most for holding me back
Q. an addition to the thing I posted before, I'm having second thoughts about my realtionship. My partners nanna dies about a month ago, and my nanna passed 4 days afterwards. We both went to one anothers nannas funerals, both in the same week and both ...
A. 23 July 2010: Ending something is final and I think what you want to do is take a break see other people. Tell him you have some things to sort out on your own. without him. Take your time try to find what you see fulfills you and just see how things go... If ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if she's only after sex?
Q. I have been seeing someone for a brief period of time. I am really into this woman but,unfortunately it would appear that she only wants sex. Or at least that is the only conclusion that I can come up with. While I am not against this, I am also not ...
A. 23 July 2010: Tell her straight up that you want something serious and not a fling, and if she isn't looking for the same thing you don't think you should see each other anymore. See what she says from that. And if seems like there is no connection, just end ... (read in full...)
Married with a child but what if my ex still loves me? I need to know!
Q. I was with my ex ex boyfriend for 6 years. I was 15 and he was 18 when we started dating. He was a jealous guy. I broke up with him because i wanted to explore. I hurt him so bad. His brother is married to my cousin and our families our very close. ...
A. 23 July 2010: Get rid of your husband.... He is a cheater, always has been, and always will be... You don't love him and he doesn't give two cents about you. Move back with your son, and just leave him. You two have no future together and even if your ex won't ... (read in full...)
Will sex hurt as much as using a tampon?
Q. i'm a 14 year old girl. i have a boyfriend, we've been dating for a long time. we're starting to talk about sex. i'm a virgin, he isn't tho. my ex and i dated for 2 years, but i never wanted to have sex, but we attempted oral, but he wasn't into it. ...
A. 23 July 2010: Things like that can loosen you up.... but that doesn't necessarily mean sex won't still hurt. For some people it does for some it doesn't.
Are you sure you actually want to have sex though? Sex is a commitment... After you do it with someone ... (read in full...)
How can I stop cheating, lying, hurting and stealing???
Q. How can I stop cheating, lying, hurting and stealing??? How can I change?? Who can help me?? who has the right answer??? Why am I doing this specially to the those who love me and close to me??? How can I change?? Why am I angry?? Why do I fail?? Am ...
A. 23 July 2010: All of these feeling come from trust. You have problems with trusting other people, therefor you break the trust others give you. What you need to do it see a psychologist and they be able to help you find the source. All of this always comes from a ... (read in full...)
Wife confessed to sex with my best friend before we were married, big deal or not??
Q. 2 years ago my wife confessed to sleeping with my former bestfriend before we where married. Since then she has being a good wife and mother.am still not over the pain and i constantly ignore her. She said she regrets her actions.she was my first ...
A. 23 July 2010: She made a mistake a long time ago. I think you should just let go of it... and don't ignore her or she will only feel un-loved by you and if you make her feel like that all the time you will eventually just chase her away.... (read in full...)
How do I tell if he just wants sex or if he loves me?
Q. So I have this best friend and he is a guy we have dated off and on. I'm 16 and he is 19... Our relationship is complicated because he is going to College in another state and I'm in high school. I'm able to see him every break that comes though ...
A. 22 July 2010: Well the reason it is on/off is actually because of my father... He doesn't want us being more than friends until I'm older. But we had dating and then decided to be friends a few times. i know he cares about me though...
I just want to know how ... (read in full...)
Afraid of having a boyfriend!
Q. so i get extremly nervous when i get ask out and always say no even if i like the guy. i know you guys are going to tell me just say yes but i wouldnt know how to react when i see him! ive oviouly never had a bf but i have told everyone even my ...
A. 22 July 2010: You can't fall unless you first take a leap and how do you know someone won't catch you? Give it a try... Bottle up your fear for a second and if you can't say the word Y-E-S! Just nod your head to indicate yes.... (read in full...)
How can I talk my boyfriend into getting a picture?
Q. My boyfriends birthday is coming up, I need a good photo of both of us. the problem ..... He hates photos of him self so it is a one in a million chance he will let me. What are some good reasons that might make him actually try to make a photo look ...
A. 22 July 2010: Well maybe you could have a friend take a picture of the two of you without him noticing. If he was just looking at you or something.. Un-posed pictures are the best.... (read in full...)
How do we deal with his mistake?
Q. hi i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and last year i was pregnat in feb 28th and i had a miscarrge at 11 weeks and im still upset about that but my baby would of been born november 21 09. well my boyfriend started talking to this girl and ...
A. 22 July 2010: He cheated on you and made a girl pregnant. There is a chance this girl could have been screwing with someone else to though, make sure when the child is born your boyfriend has her get a maternity test. I think you should ask yourself if you really ... (read in full...)
Why is he blowing me off?
Q. Ok so me and my best guy friend who I love like a brother went through this thing where he told me he liked me, asked me out, and dumped me less than 14 hrs later because he decided he wanted the friend ship more and i forgave him for it but now he ...
A. 22 July 2010: There isn't enough information here for an outsider to determine this... MY best advice is to walk straight up to him where he can't avoid you and ask him whats going on...
Tell me what happens! Good luck!!... (read in full...)
My cousins girlfriend is falling for me
Q. Hi my situation is quite interesting I have to say. I'm 17 and I went to my cousins party out of state and met my cousins girlfriend she was really interested in me trust me I could tell. She would ask me all these personal love questions, and she ...
A. 22 July 2010: If anything happens with her your cousin is going to kick your ass... Just letting you know up front.. Also if she were to try and cheat on her boyfriend with you what does that say about her character? Would you ever want to end up with a girl that ... (read in full...)
Every chick around him insults me and hates me!
Q. Hey, this may confuse some of you and it confuses myself, but i need help on it i have more then 1 question. Im 15 (just recently turned 15) The Guy i like is 17. His adorable, great body, really nice and caring, his like prince charming but with...
A. 22 July 2010: Well you did basically steal another girls boyfriend... So of course the ex girlfriend hates you. How would you feel if you were her? You should tell him to talk to her about leaving you alone though. Maybe even tell her she is acting immature and ... (read in full...)
How do I prove I deserve her trust? I am in competition with another guy and I want to win her over!
Q. hello I'm in a bit of a situation here. so I met this girl through friends, she came with my buddies girl friend and I saw her and instantly knew I liked her but at that moment she thought another guy in our group of friends was cute, I said nothing ...
A. 22 July 2010: Have you ever been up to see her? Find out her address and just spontaneously drive up there to see her...(make sure she isn't doing anything first) Show up to her house with some flowers and ask if she would like to go out to dinner with you. And ... (read in full...)
My soulmate, or my true love?
Q. I recently took this quiz from a lady who studies about true soul mates and write books about them. The quiz was pretty long, and it said that i met my true soul mate. The problem is, i have a boyfriend, whom i've been dating for 4 years. We are c...
A. 22 July 2010: Forget about what you think a "soul mate" is. Clear your mind of all the crap people tell you. And who says this lady knows all the answers in the universe just because she wrote I book that was published? Simple choose the guy that makes you more ... (read in full...)
How do I tell if he just wants sex or if he loves me?
Q. So I have this best friend and he is a guy we have dated off and on. I'm 16 and he is 19... Our relationship is complicated because he is going to College in another state and I'm in high school. I'm able to see him every break that comes though ...
A. 22 July 2010: I may not have been very clear here...
@ohgetreal.. I was drunk at my house drinking with family not around him... What I "said" was in text message. Don't worry I'm always at my wits with guys my age around. It's important to remain in control.... (read in full...)
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