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writes: Hi,Every weekend my mother-in-law comes for dinner. Every time she arrives she thinks she has the right to go upstairs and tidy around. We have been having problems with her grandson who is 11, trashing his room and misbehaving at bedtimes. We have asked her not to do this because its his responsibility to clear his mess up but after numerous rows she still persists. How do I stop this without physically throwing her out. Is there something psycologically wrong that she does not realise the message she sends? The boy loses everything, has no value, treats everyone as though they have an endless money pot.
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (2 October 2006):
 well you could change it and go round to hers instead that way she cant clean his room. like wise my 11year old brother is so disrespectful at times and my mom trys to do everything for him,and i put a stop to that and say its your mess clean it and he does if he doesnt i punish him and take his computer away from him. i know i proberly shouldnt but if i didnt then he would be right out of controll! also setting boundaries around the house like if he is not to tidy his mess,nor help mom then he will have somthing he loves taken away from him for 5-6hours or as long as you want! maybe that will teach him to take more responsibilitie as well as when nan comes to clean his room hell say no nan i want to do that!
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reader, pica +, writes (2 October 2006):
Any chance he could spend time at her house? If he trashes it up, maybe she'll feel differently about his behaviour. If he doesn't then this shows he knows how to behave and is just playing for attention at home. Just a suggestion.
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reader, fallenman +, writes (2 October 2006):
 You talk as if this boy is not part of your family, does this reflect your relationship with him?
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