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writes:Alright, you all are probably going to think I am silly, because I am almost 30 years old. But, I have not given "head" to anyone in over 2 years. I want to do it now for my new boyfriend. The problem is that I am scared. I don't know if I will do it well. Please help me. Please give me pointers to remind me. Thank you sooooo much!! Also, please give me some ideas to help us get "freaky" in the bedroom to spice things up........without wearing costumes or sexy lingerie (I am broke!!). Reply to this Question |
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Simple suggestion:
Use your tongue around the head a lot! Also the penis can never be too wet, if you are going to stroke the shaft make sure there is plenty of moisture - either use spit or get the lubricant out (personally I find it a huge turn on when I see my girl rubbing lubricant on her hands and then applying it to my willy), the worse thing for a guy is when a girl vigourously strokes the penis when its dry - it hurts.
As for costumes, you don't have to spend a fortune to look sexy, a simply pair of frilly knickers can do the trick. Or more importantly suggest you go shopping for some lingerie, that way you can find out what he likes the most - beleive me you won't have to worry about paying for it, he will be running up to the counter with his credit card if you let him pick the lingerie!!! Good luck!
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reader, daletom +, writes (9 January 2008):
Why does "Dear Cupid" insist on "editing" links so they don't work?
Try this: "Can you give me some tips on spicing up our sex life???" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/can-you-give-me-some-tips-on-spicing.html is what it should be!
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reader, daletom +, writes (9 January 2008):
A few quick points for a "refresher course":
- Many guys get great pleasure from receiving oral sex, but not all. I enjoy it as an intimate part of foreplay but find it very difficult to climax from oral. If he doesn't respond the way you fantasize he should it may not be your fault!
- Learn to "read" his reactions. This goes for ANYTHING you do together, not just oral. How he breathes, how he squirms, how he shifts his body, what his hands are doing.
- Most guys are NOT very vocal in expressing their pleasure. If you can encourage him to gasp, grunt or whimper a little it'll help both of you.
- What feels good to him is likely to change as he goes through his response sequence. Don't be afraid to adapt accordingly.
- Cover your teeth! Use your lips as a cushion. One good scrape across your incisors can kill both the sensations, and the mood, for the rest of the evening.
- Don't be afraid to apply a little pressure. Feather touches can feel sexy at the beginning, but it takes more force to get the job done. If you can, look at how he grips himself when he masturbates.
- Get your tongue involved. Explore my man-parts. Wrap it around me as you stroke.
- Use your hands, too. Caress his upper thighs. Gently stroke his balls. At the right moment, a slick finger or tongue around (or just inside) the anus is awesome!
- Spit or swallow? I don't care, as long as you stay on me until the contractions are finished and you don't carry on like it's battery acid that I just emptied into your mouth.
- When I start coming down, I'm VERY tender, especially around the head. Be gentle.
As for "how to get freaky on a budget" - look at the thread "Can you give me some tips on spicing up our sex life???" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/can-you-give-me-some-tips-on-spicing.html.
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