What are some new ways to seduce my wife and spice things up?
Q. I've been married to my wife for six years. We have two children, the first was born about a year after we started dating, so we really haven't had a lot of time for ourselves. In her culture (Central American) it's more common for babies to stay in ...
A. 4 October 2013: There are many ways to do this but i heard from a couple who were much like you and your wife. Give the children to grandma and grandpa for the night and then take her somewhere nice and romantic. There are a million ideas given if you do a google ... (read in full...)
Smiling thing happening. Should I approach him and ask him to be friends? Or will that be going too far?
Q. Dear cupid, there is this guy who lives down my street, i like him. For sometime now, he's been giving me this kind of look that makes me thinks he likes me and wants to be friends with me. Anytime he sees me, he smiles at me and i dont smile ba...
A. 4 October 2013: I understand your situation. If he is nice it does not cost anything to return a smile especially if he is the first one to give such. I understand you can be shy. No harm in smiling and showing him your pearly whites. You just do not know where ... (read in full...)
I know which one I want, but I cant tell him to leave!
Q. the love of my life, 'mike' and i have been together on and off for 3 years. over the times we've broken up i've been with other people, but it was always short lived and we always have stayed in touch. when we broke up the first time he went home ...
A. 4 October 2013: Sure you know what you want, you have just left a very descriptive expose of yourself. Selfish, Narcissistic and anything else i can say about you. You cant say what you want because you know they would throw your ass out the door. I am glad you ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid? Or do I have reason to feel this way?
Q. I tried to post this yesterday but I'm not sure if it's because I posted it anonymously that it didn't get through? My boyfriend and I have just celebrated our 4 year anniversary. From my point of view we have been mostly happy, aside from a 3 w...
A. 3 October 2013: Sure you have reason for being worried. If you have been in a good relationship for over four years he should have no problem in answering your questions about what happened then. But be prepared the answer you receive may burst your bubble between ... (read in full...)
Single for 2 years and feeling very lonely. How can I cheer up?
Q. I'm single and lonely. What should I do? Dear Aunties: I've been single for 2 years, which I know is completely normal, but I've been starting to feel quite lonely. I'm a senior in college so I'm very busy and so are my friends, so we only go ou...
A. 3 October 2013: It sound like you are living on some deserted island or some-thing not near anybody. Are you the male equivalent to a sad sack? Do you not have any friends? How did you meet your boyfriend? I also had a period in my younger years after i had broken ... (read in full...)
Why are my single male friends so much more bitter than my single female friends?
Q. I find it bizarre. All my male friends seem to be so bleak about their dating lives. I don't really understand why they are like this. I don't find that most long term single women display man-hating attributes. Yet, long term single men disp...
A. 3 October 2013: To everyone can i simply say you are all barking up the wrong tree. Please Mr. Anonymous to associate being the nice guy to finishing last is not totally true. What is the definition of the average guy? In today's terms i can be considered ... (read in full...)
I don't really know what she might feel for me
Q. About 5 years ago I had a relationship with a married woman. I thought I was falling in love and probably was, but then her husband died unexpectedly and I ran. I couldn't be there for her when she needed me but I think it was just too much at that ...
A. 2 October 2013: She was with you while married? Are you for real? She really did not feel anything for you. It was only sex . What more do you want from a married woman. Some not all that have flings and hookups lead to anything, but most do not. You were the ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know about our future together. Is it worth staying with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year and a half. We get along great, we havn't really had a fight as we seem to be able to take conflict and talk it out, we enjoy spending time together and doing things together and we respect ...
A. 2 October 2013: Its plain and simple, any man that does not know about a future with you is not worth keeping. He likes the milk but now does not want the cow now. Sorry for the bad cliche. You just tell him you do not know about a future with him anymore and tell ... (read in full...)
My gf of two years wont do anything sexual with me
Q. Hi! I have a problem and I really need some answers. I have been with my gf for two years. I love her to bits, I think she really is the one for me. However, she wont let me do anything sexual. We only kiss when we're together and that's it. Being ...
A. 2 October 2013: I can completely understand your frustration but why would you wait two years. Roughly one year into the relationship you should of told her your feelings and actively pursue a solution. How does that phrase go? She is just not that into you? Maybe ... (read in full...)
My selfish husband doesn't turn me on
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 3 years together for 5 and we have a 3 month old baby together. I'm finding I'm just into my hubby as sexually anymore I still find him very attractive but when we get down to sex it's so boring! I don't ge...
A. 2 October 2013: Tell him how you feel, it appears his actions correspond with some sex scene in a porn movie. Reality check time, porn movies are not real life situations. Lots of women do not scream and hold onto the bed sheets while a man pounds away at her at a ... (read in full...)
I told him I liked him. He said nothing
Q. I told this guy that I had a crush on him. Before I was about to tell him I think he sensed what I was about to say. After I told him he just asked me how long I liked him and I said I don't know. I could not think straight my head was all over the ...
A. 2 October 2013: You told him your feelings and he could not return the same compliments so take a deep breath and then just move on. Before I was dating my present girlfriend I was told by a woman while I was drinking my favorite latte at Starbucks that she liked ... (read in full...)
Can you get over a lack of physical attraction if the person is great enough?
Q. How do you get over not having a physical attraction to someone? I met the most amazing guy. Which is not something I say easily or throw around, I have been married and never talked that way about my ex husband. We have been talking for a fe...
A. 2 October 2013: Anything is possible but there will come a time where you will test the waters and there could become a physical attraction. I have a couple of female friends who are just friends we talk hang out together and do things but there is nothing physical ... (read in full...)
Should I worry that she wants to get herself off after sex?
Q. I'm 36, I've been married to my wife for 3 years and we never had any big sex-related problem or issue. Since a few months ago I started noticing that she was not satisfied anymore after we were done in bed. Not that she would tell me before, but ...
A. 2 October 2013: If you really love your woman you have to lead the charge and find out what gets her off. Tell her she does not need a vibrator or dildo and that you can satisfy her. Listen to her
carefully and say you love her and find nothing wrong with oral sex.... (read in full...)
My Uncle's solution has upset me. What can I do? He wants to disappear as payback for his wife's adultery.
Q. Dear Aunts i now find myself asking you for your advice on this family issue. My uncle and aunt have played a critical role in my up bringing for the first fifteen years of my life. My uncle confided in me that his wife my aunt confessed to him t...
A. 30 September 2013: Tisha-1 i hate to admit but what you are saying is almost a 100 percent correct. Really none of my business but my only regret i will miss him because i had a close relationship with him as well as my Aunt. Now it appears i could of been used in my ... (read in full...)
My Uncle's solution has upset me. What can I do? He wants to disappear as payback for his wife's adultery.
Q. Dear Aunts i now find myself asking you for your advice on this family issue. My uncle and aunt have played a critical role in my up bringing for the first fifteen years of my life. My uncle confided in me that his wife my aunt confessed to him t...
A. 29 September 2013: Thanks wise owl for your comments that only now hit home. After discussing this with my girlfriend and parents after seeing the police and my aunt a lot of things just didn't add up.Why did he approach me a person who never hurt or talk back to him ... (read in full...)
Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her
Q. hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've b...
A. 29 September 2013: Listen my friend i went to a legal brothel in Vegas where i lost my virginity. I got up the nerve one time and just walked in. I was honest and up front and did not throw any bullshit stories at these women. It was the best experience of my life and ... (read in full...)
Does a person show the "real" side of him or herself when drunk?
Q. Just curious does anyone think that when a person is drunk they turn into the 'real' them?? not in a sense of sober they're nice and drunk they fight but in a sense where sober they're one way and drunk they flirt ALOT and say things that woul...
A. 29 September 2013: My response to you is that anything is possible. But in most but not all cases people do not show their true selves other than the self they are not really like. Think of the movie the mask which stared Jimmy carry as the mild mannered banker who ... (read in full...)
How much should I dress up or make up for my FWB?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles. I have a fwb with this guy who I really fancy! He knows How much I fancy him, but we both know it will not become anything more. I'm just wondering how much effort should I or shouldn't I be putting in into our sexy time? I...
A. 29 September 2013: I will not beat you up about FWB Relationships but sorry to burst your bubble. According to studies by prominent universities and collages this type of arrangement never works out well. Many but not all men who themselves part take in this are ... (read in full...)
My Uncle's solution has upset me. What can I do? He wants to disappear as payback for his wife's adultery.
Q. Dear Aunts i now find myself asking you for your advice on this family issue. My uncle and aunt have played a critical role in my up bringing for the first fifteen years of my life. My uncle confided in me that his wife my aunt confessed to him t...
A. 29 September 2013: Thank you everyone for your kind words and not beating me up which is what i have been going through the past forty-eight hours. I did go to the police and file a report. I was fortunate to be able to tape some of my uncles finally words to me ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for being careful with a guy from an online dating site?
Q. First, I went online to the dating site that I had been on and while I was off I had joined a few others just to make friends and pen pals. I sent a flirt to this person and he was a nice looking guy and a message also. He responded back to me and ...
A. 29 September 2013: By your own words this guy is a psychopath and you were right in handling the and situation the way you did. Who is he to put you down? He is probably some three hundred pound biggest loser contestant. When i first met my girlfriend via close family ... (read in full...)
Why do men stop talking in mid sentence?
Q. What does it mean when a man stops talking in mid-sentence? A few times he has stopped talking in the middle of his sentence.. I do not know if he was trying not to hurt my feelings or he was trying to keep from speaking his true feelings...
A. 29 September 2013: Where did you meet this psycho? He is just trying to bully you by using these childish tactics. Ask him why he is doing what he is doing. If you don't get a good answer that makes you happy tell him to go and take a hike. You don't need this .Move ... (read in full...)
The night we met she went out had sex with her ex afterwards!
Q. Advice needed please! I met this girl a couple of months ago on a night out with friends, we hit it off straight away, swapped numbers and had a really good time that night. We started dating soon after and are going steady now. Everything h...
A. 28 September 2013: I have to kind of agree with some of your concerns. I too would question the hook up with the ex boyfriend. What if she has a dozen of them all over the place? With std s exploding in North America, one has to be careful. But beyond that, I have a ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like it's time to end the relationship?
Q. I'm in a confused situation right now. I feel like things with me and my boyfriend are never going to change. We live together but he works a lot so we only see each other during that day. He texts constantly! From when he wakes up till he goes to ...
A. 28 September 2013: By your admission you find that there is something wrong with this man. Tex ting is fine but if that is his main mode of communication than there is something wrong here. Your suspicions are correct. Accusing you of being to bossy sounds pretty ... (read in full...)
We've Only Been Dating for 5 Days and He Jokes About Marriage, Meeting the Family, and Spending Holidays Together?!
Q. Help me.... I've been dating this person for 4-5 days and he is scaring me off with jokes about marriage and making future plans to meet my family and spend the holidays together. We've known eachother for a few months now, in which he express...
A. 28 September 2013: Well finally after hearing many female friends who are always saying that men are non committal and do not want to develop any relationships and along comes a man who breaks the mold. Now you are startled or confused or just befuddled? It is quite ... (read in full...)
My husband of 9 years cheated for numerous times. How can I get over this?
Q. I have asked for help several time on dear cupid and now need more advice. I found out my husband of 9 years cheated. Not just once, but this went on for months during the most difficult time of our lives. It hurts me more because he didnt feel bad ...
A. 27 September 2013: Cheating is horrible and sorry to say you got screwed royally. You have appeared to have suffered the most. The biggest deal
breaker in the marriage is trust and that has been thrown into your face. Sometimes people have to be held accountable for ... (read in full...)
One minute he wants marriage, the next he gives me up?
Q. His feelings are so wishy washy One minute he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me then the next he says Im his bestfriend. Then he'll say that he wants to be committed and then get married and then next he says, I should be with s...
A. 27 September 2013: Ya, one minute he wants it and the next he doesn't. What he is trying to say is that he is not really interested in the whole thing. Why buy the cow when the milk is free. Some guys know how to pull a woman's strings. My advice to you sweetheart is ... (read in full...)
A conversation about a friend led to resentment of my wife's different treatment of me and her ex lovers.
Q. aqwsasThe other night at supper I was telling my wife of 32 years about a young lady at work. This woman was telling a story about a friend of hers who worked three jobs and when he came home from work his wife turned their three kids over to him ...
A. 27 September 2013: Sure she does not want to talk about it now, what some thirty -two years later? This is going to bother you and you have to figure a away out in finding why she resents oral sex now and it appears, correct me if i am wrong you might like to have ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's dad has terminal cancer and we're having trouble. Do I talk to him about things?
Q. I was wanting to have a serious relationship chat with my bf of 6 yrs, about whether he actually wanted to be with me because he never seems that happy and thus I am never that happy. However, we've just found out his dad has lung cancer which is ...
A. 25 September 2013: My condolences to your boyfriends dad. You know this really tough but i believe you cannot go on like this for another six months. That makes no sense at all. After almost what six years in a relationship it is going no where? I have been in a ... (read in full...)
My ex has been on my mind alot and I want to contact him. Should I?
Q. About 3 years ago, I met a man. I'll be completely honest, things weren't always the best and by the end, I was pretty low. He broke my heart. At the time, I was at a very tumultuous phase anyway. I was finishing my undergrad and had no idea where ...
A. 25 September 2013: I am sure what you just told millions of people here would be a excellent text to him but you may want to change or modify what you said. He does not have to know about the affair you had. My only warning to you about all this is that there is a ... (read in full...)
Why do I want to hold onto my ex when he cheated and I didn't?
Q. Hi and thanks My ex boyfriend and I are still communicating and I still love him but hes distancing himself from me. We broke up about 4 weeks ago and his reason for being aloof is his son is talking back to his mom. Yrs ago we were in a rela...
A. 25 September 2013: Take my word if not of my fellow agony aunt sisters and brothers. You are a better person than that piece of garbage in my mind who has manipulated and used and abused your ,love,trust and affection. I can only say you deserve better and from the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I don't have enough experience
Q. My boyfriend told me last night that he is concerned that I don't have enough sexual experience for him to get more serious about our relationship. He is concerned that since I have only been in one other serious relationship that I cant be ready ...
A. 25 September 2013: Let me tell you flat out right now that your boyfriend is full of bullshit. There is little or no correlation between your sexual experience in relationship to the number of partners. I think he just wants to dump you and is obsessed with all that ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner that I'm ready to marry now? Or wait?
Q. ive been thinking of it for quite sometime now... ive been with my partner for 9 long years but have not decided to ger married yet... well he did ask me once 5yrs ago but i told him im not ready yet since then we havent talked about it again... our ...
A. 25 September 2013: Well lets start the topic way back five years ago when he asked you to marry him. Did he get down on one knee and make the formal request? Or was it one of those cuddle nights on the coach or in the bedroom when he asked? This is important because ... (read in full...)
I like the friend of my ex but am afraid he might think I'm a psycho!
Q. dear cupid i have this crush on a guy had it for a while and thought it would go but now he is invading my dreams i really like him and i know one kiss from him would be a dream but here's the problem: he is friends with my ex who dumped me...
A. 25 September 2013: I understand your feelings completely, but you have a problem no? You believe that he may think you are a psycho. Try to change that if you can at all and then move forward. But there is no guarantee that will work for you.Nothing beats one on one ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one feeling this way? Does he miss me too?
Q. I was with this guy for only a little over a month. We were very close and bonded very well. But he felt I was insecure and kept pushing him away when he was trying to get to know me better, therefore he decided to cut off completely. It's been two ...
A. 25 September 2013: If you are in a relationship with a man who makes you insecure then drop him. Why in the hell are you pondering and beating yourself up? A relationship is about sharing, exchanging,loving and giving and taking. It appears by your own words this ... (read in full...)
I do still love him and think about him but I'm confused by his words!
Q. I love this guy, and he tells me he loves me. We have been together for 6 months now. All this while we've been together,i thought we were a couple until last week wen i text him that it was better we broke up since he said i was hurting him. I ...
A. 25 September 2013: This is said and callous act performed by your x boyfriend but there should be no confusion. It is over plain and simple. I am sorry to hear you were hurt and crying. This was not fair to you. I just wish when you saw him that you yelled back at him ... (read in full...)
Does looking at and smiling at another woman in class mean a guy is interested in her?
Q. Hello. Just wondering what everybody thinks. My boyfriend is a group fitness instructor at a gym. I take part in some of his classes sometimes. What I noticed is that he has looked at an attractive blonde who is at the front of his cla...
A. 25 September 2013: I believe that he has to smile in the nature of his business.He cant be carrying a poker face all day. Smiling doesn't mean anything. I cannot understand why you are worried other than this woman is better looking than you and your relationship with ... (read in full...)
Should I move on or give him some time?
Q. I've been on a few dates with this guy and he has been a gentleman, very romantic etc. He tells me that he likes me over and over again and that he wants to get to know me. We have kissed and cuddled only. Now my problem/ confusion is tha...
A. 25 September 2013: I hate to bash these dating sites that spend millions of dollars telling everyone that they have matched people with life long relationships. But in your case it might not be true.I have to disagree with my fellow aunts about continuing to see him ... (read in full...)
Is there any chance a handsome guy could like a fat girl?
Q. Hello Dear Aunts and Uncles So, this is gonna be a silly question but i hope you could answer anyway... Well, there is this guy i met that i really like. We are in the same group of friends (i am new to the group). The thing is i don't know if...
A. 25 September 2013: Sure there is a chance that a handsome guy will like a fat girl. But you did not say how fat you are. Well built or are you super duty? Sorry for the poor comparison. I personally know a beautiful woman who is dating my best friend who is really a ... (read in full...)
I fantasize about my man with other woman and it turns me on but then I feel jealous?
Q. I sometimes when I'm alone I play with myself thinking of my man having sex with another women yet I'm a real jealous person! at the moment I'm turned on and bring it up and am really turned on then after I get hurt mad jealous! Why?...
A. 24 September 2013: Yes fantasies are normal and if you have a close and committed relationship you sure would be jealous. It can happen. And why wouldnt you be jealous? Some strange woman doing your special man. If I had that fantasy i surely would be pissed after. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to think I'm damaged but how do I get over a bad relationship?
Q. I left a very abusive relationship a couple of months ago, and in class I've met a wonderful law student who is helping me with all the legal issues involving my ex. He has been very kind and supportive and always encourages me to keep pursuing ...
A. 24 September 2013: You are a normal human being who has been through hell and back with another man. Dont ever knock yourself and say you are damaged. You have had a traumatic experience and that is what has happened to you. You are a great human being, but you need ... (read in full...)
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