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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Ok, so I have this male friend (or I thought we were friends). We used to talk quite a bit by phone or text. Then in May he told me that he has not been dating anyone for the last year and a half because he has been wanting me. We decided to have sex and at first it freaked him out, but I convinced him that it would be ok and it was sex for sex and shouldn't affect our friendship. We now have had sex 4 times and it was good sex and fun sex, but now it is as though he doesn't want to be friends and rarely calls or texts. He doesn't even call to have sex either. it is really strange, but he had previously told me how much he liked me and thought about me all the time-- now almost nothing. I know he started this new job and is totally overwhelmed, but don't men still want sex when they can get it? Sometimes I wonder if he might actually be gay but hasn't acted on it and just tried to use me to fight this. I know it sounds odd, but before me it had been almost 2 years since he had sex and he is a good looking decent guy. I just wonder, is it me, or not wanting to just be friends with benefits, or is he hiding the truth from himself by trying to fight the fact that maybe he is gay. I am just confused how someone can totally go from wanting you, lusting after you, and then just shut dowm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Like the saying goes, nerver get sexually in involved with your best friend, it only complicates and embarrass the frindship. [think about it.]
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